Signs of being gay? - I need help

[glossybabe]

can someone tell me the signs of being gay

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by glossybabe

can someone tell me the signs of being gay

first sign is that you post on a forum IN THE WRONG DAMN PLACE!

[eminatic]

Originally Posted by HardNgood

first sign is that you post on a forum IN THE WRONG DAMN PLACE!

LOL! there are no official "signs" of being gay...except maybe these

[demonbuttercup]

Um the most apparent sign would be that you find the opposite sex a turn off and the same sex a turn on

If you like both, then maybe you are Bi

[-wittyphrasehere-]

Originally Posted by HardNgood

first sign is that you post on a forum IN THE WRONG DAMN PLACE!

Always the bearer of productivity.

Originally Posted by glossybabe

can someone tell me the signs of being gay

Generally, attraction, physically and emotionally, to the same sex. Take some time to consider your sexual orientation, better to accept truth that try to be something you aren't.
It can be a grey issue. Some people are inbetween the catergories of hetero, bi, homo.

[Rawbob]

Signs? Like a lisp? acting more feminine despite being a male? ....then the answer is NO!

There is no "test" for being gay, no outward indicators - you only need to look at some of the most masculine men in history to see that not all gay men are like Andy Dickk or Liberaci.

DOn't get hung up on sterotypes....only time will really tell........and you have to look deep inside yourself.......like, when watching str8 porn, are u looking more at the man's cock or the fact that he's ****ing a hot woman?

When you're in the gym, do you spend a bit more time in the showers sneeking looks at the men in teh shower...or do you watch gay porn on the internet secretly?

Look deep inside - and listen to your own voice!

[BTDTWoman]

Please be more specific so that we can answer your question in a helpful way.

Why do you need help? Are you a woman who thinks your boyfriend might be gay? Are you a man who thinks your buddy may be gay? Are you looking for clues as to whether you might be gay? Or lesbian? Is there someone of the same sex hitting on you in a way that makes you uncomfortable? Are people telling you that you are gay or lesbian when you don't think of yourself that way?

I will assume (unless you tell us otherwise) that you are afraid that you might be gay. Having feelings for other people of the same sex is a common experience that may or may not lead to "being gay." I would define "being gay" as having strong sexual and/or romantic feelings for people of the same sex AND acting on those feelings with words or actions. Other people have different definitions.

In any case, being gay has nothing - NOTHING - to do with how feminine or masculine you look or act. Some people who want to be easily identified as gay or lesbian enjoy assuming some of the physical characteristics and appearance of a stereotypical queen or butch. Also, people who want to have sex with people the same sex will say, do, or wear things that can only be understood ("read") by people who are looking for the same thing.

So what is it about having these feelings that upsets you? Are you afraid that acting on your feelings will compromise your ability to be a masculine man or a feminine woman? Are you afraid of how your friends or family might react if they discover that you desire other men or women sexually and/or romantically?

Do you feel ashamed, disgusted, or sinful when you feel this desire for people of the same sex? If so, please find help in accepting yourself and your feelings for what they are. We have no control over what we desire, only over whether we act on that desire. The desire is unlikely to ever change, so you are the one who must change to accept your desires, or you can try to change your desires and make yourself miserable for years.

"Being gay" to me is acting on your desire for physical and emotional intimacy with people of the same sex. Lots of "straight" men like to have sex with other men, but they do not permit themselves to have emotional intimacy with those men. Lots of "straight" women are in love with their girlfriends, but do not permit themselves to have physical intimacy with those women.

"Being gay" does not mean that you have cannot have sexual feelings for the opposite sex at times. "Being gay" is not the same thing as being transgendered, that is, knowing that your biological sex doesn't fit with your idea of yourself as a man or a woman. (A transgendered woman with a male body who desires men is actually heterosexual! Wrap your head around that one!)

Signs of being gay? Here are some common ones for gay men: Being in love with a male friend. Wanting to kiss a man. Wanting to touch a man's genitals. Wanting to penetrate him sexually (oral or anal or both). Wanting to be penetrated by him sexually (oral or anal or both). Fantasizing about sex with men when you masturbate. Maybe some resentment or jealousy about who your male friend spends time with, be it a girlfriend, wife, or other guy.

Your heart thumps and/or you get hard when you think about him or her.

[Brandye]

In other? There are no "signs."

In yourself? Being attracted to others of your gender with little interest in the other.

Incidentally, I have never known a virgin lesbian. Seems like everybody tries.