Girlfriend is bi

[Brandye]

Alban,

I have seen studies indicating as many as 30% of all married women have had an outside female relationship. We bi- women are much more common than most believe. We just do not brag in the locker room!

With women, I do not have to worry about contraception - there is not a sperm in the whole house. You are correct in women being a bit more susceptible to STD. It is, after all, injected directly into us. When I was dating various women, oral was out of bounds until we got to know one another very well. There is so much more to woman sex than orgasm that this is no big deal. If two women avoid oral and the wonderful "lesbian kiss," there is low exchange of body fluids and that really reduces the risk. It is much more common for a woman to carry a disease from a man to a woman than from a woman to a man. Certainly should not be discounted.

Eva and I have no more than six male encounters each year and they must be on our "approved list." That is part of our agreement and the very few men on the list are well vetted.

[alban lusitanae]

As I thought, bissexuals have to be pretty well organized. Not a bad thing I guess, just gets that thrill of the unexpected a bit out of the equation, although unexpected is so negative nowadays... being safe is the key.

[nottooblushing]

With all due respect to Brandye, I don't think I could live that way. I think I have a terminal case of monogamy. Even when I was "playing the field" so to speak, I would have 2 or 3 interactions with a person and then move on to another for a few weeks. The only time I even came close to hooking up with 2 people in the same period of time I had had far more cheap canadian whiskey then I am comfortable admitting.
All of that is to address the original post. Everyone is different and you need to understand what her sexuality means to her. If it means that she is serially monogamous with people of either gender or that she feels the need to get a little girl action on the side figure out if you can deal with what SHE needs, not what I or anyone else says they need in a relationship.