My Girlfriend reads lesbian stories

[fleshgordon]

Hi

Me and my girlfriend are both in our 20s and we have a good sex life. Recently i have found out in the internet history that every now and again she looks at lesbian sex stories on the net, and im assuming she masturbates to them. I know that in this day and age that its probably more normal than i think for girls, but as you can imagine it makes me feel a tiny bit concerned/worried. She doesnt know i know this, should i do my best to forget it and carry on as normal or somehow 'accidently' bring the subject up.

Looking forward to some opinions thanks

[ChiliPepper]

Theres nothing wrong with her reading lesbian stories. Many women are curious, interested, or have had a sexual encounter with the same sex. (In varying degrees)

Just because they read about it doesnt mean you have anything to fear. Erotic stories are not scarce in our house, and some of the most well-read, by both of us (male and female) are the lesbian encounters.

I think there is something soft, sensual thats just pure erotic about two women touching each other. Its a combination of the soft bodies and mouths taking care of each others needs that makes it a great fantasy for men and women.

Let her enjoy it, and instead of bringing up her computer browsing, buy her a book of erotic stories. I can recommend some good ones.

[Brandye]

It is very difficult to get actual statistics on female sexual relationships with toher women. The most recent I have seen estimates that nearly 30% of all married women have a same sex encounter at some time in their marriages. Some continue; some do not. Do not assume what she does as she reads these stories. For women "porn" serves a bit of a different purpose than for men. If you read the stories she likes you will probably find a higher romantic content than in those "lesbian" stories or pics or vids that are actually made for male consumption.

I have a few married friends and patients who have regular tea or shopping trips or whatever that do include sex. Their husbands likely have no idea. You would be amazed at how often Eva and I get questions from patients. We are not totally open but I suspect much of the town knows we are an item inspite of our histories.

You now have some information that really is not yours. If you do not discuss it with her, will it fester into a major problem? If you bring it up, will she feel violated? Do each of you have enough confidence in yurselves to discuss it?

No one can really advise you but you obviously jumped to a conclusion on the masturbation and you may be jumping to conclusions on other parts of this. My advice about sex history or knowledge of another is that if you cannot tolerate any of the possible answers, it is none of your business.

[Old Kid]

Do any of you ever stop to think how many times computers and cell phones cause relationship issues. Part of the price we pay for modern technology I suppose. Maybe sometimes too much information can be a bad thing and ignorance is bliss.

On the whole homosexual thing. It's interesting how a lot of men are repulsed by two guys together but think two women are hot as heck. Just some personal observations not an opinion.

Far as the original post, we all have fantasies. If you are curious about hers, perhaps try to initiate a disscussion about fantasies you both have. Maybe she will be willing to share her thoughts. I don't think "busting" her about something you found on the computer is a good idea. Face it, we all need our space sometimes. BTW, does she know everything you do on the Inet such as frequent this site for example?

[lov2lickit23]

masturbation is normal women do it on the regular it relives stress and it just feels good maybe you should try it with her.its nothing wrong with comming is there? let me answer that for you hell no relax maybe she thinks of u when shes doing it.

[dancingdoc2]

Your helpful enthusiasm is helpful, however, before you reply to a thread, please check the date. You are replying to a question that is over a year old!

[mac_chick]

I wouldn't ignore the issue, but I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Does she orgasm when you have sex? Many women who are "gay" don't typically orgasm when having sex with males, or have a hard time. Maybe that's not true for all, but for the ones I know, it was.

Maybe she's just bi-curious.

You could probably play off it and make your own sex life better. Let her know you know, maybe discretely. Go rent some lesbian porn, ask her if she wants to watch it with you. When you see her getting hot and bothered by it, make your move. Talk to her, ask her what she likes. Sometimes fantasies can make your relationship go to a whole other level.

I'm a lesbian, and happy in a relationship, but I watch straight porn, honestly - I prefer it to lesbian porn. Couldn't tell you why, it's just what I prefer, but in bed, my girlfriend is what I want.

[blatant_narcisism]

There's nothing gay about reading lesbian stories for a woman. If she's straight, she probably enjoys putting herself in both positions. It's a double bonus for her. If you have a healthly relationship, then she could be bisexual. I wouldn't worry. My boyfriend and I read both lesbian and gay stories together, and there's not a chance of either of us turning gay.