Bisexual or opportunist???

[SexySass69]

I know that I may catch some flack about this, but it's something that really does intrigue me.

A friend who I used to be quite close with recently came out as bisexual. I would normally just support her as a friend and try to remain open-minded but there's something odd about this. For a while before this, she was entirely fixated with being in a relationship, any relationship.

So I would like to pose the question, do you think that she's really bisexual or that she's simply looking for any way to get some action???

[DVDBear]

What in particular do you find odd? If it was just a case of "getting some action" don't you think everyone would be bisexual? If a person has yearnings to be with both sexes (and can enjoy sex with both) they're bisexual. Your friend may eventually stay more with one camp than the other, but she's still bi.

[sera300]

Maybe her urge to be in a relationship was her trying to conceal her true feelings? Perhaps when she did not find a relationship to distract her; she decided to confront her true feelings? One of my ex's I found out was bi and he used to stay in continuous relationships, yet sneak out to get some on the side...Meaning he always had a girlfriend that way the guys he worked w/did not question his sexuality; meanwhile, he caught up w/his boyfriend on the side. Best thing you can do is encourage her to just be open and honest about her sexuality to any person she may get into a committed relationship with. My ex tried to hide his being bi from his parents and his co-workers (cops); therefore, when we began dating he never told me. Long after we were in a very committed relationship it came out, I came home from work early and found him w/his s.o. Now, 20 years have passed, his parents have died, co-workers really don't care, and he resides w/his s.o. Occasionally they part and date other's (women) but they get back together.

[Sirene]

There's been the saying: There's no such thing as bisexuality, just greed.
HAHA
I dont personally believe that.

[SexySass69]

Well here's the thing, she has more interest in men but they don't have much of any interest in her. More or less, she has always scraped the bottom of the barrel when finding guys to be in relationships with, but over the past year or two, even those guys aren't into it.

Thus I am led to believe that this is just a cry for attention. I know it's horrible.

[DVDBear]

Well, you may be right but it doesn't seem very likely that she'd really get into a sexual relationship with another woman unless she found it desirable at some level. I'm not sure what the cry for attention is here, anyway. Does she expect her friends to talk her out of it or something?

[SexySass69]

No. With her it would be that she would expect us to ignore the personality disorder that is her very personality and offer our support.

I had managed to successfully distance myself from her drama and then she calls me one day and starts talking about how she thinks she's bi now and all that stuff.

She has yet to have any bisexual encounters though. It's been about 8 months and all she does is talk about how she wishes people would notice her.

[DVDBear]

It sounds like the issue is not her bisexuality, real or imagined, but her personality in general.

What she really needs is to be a gay guy, drama queen division. LOL!

But seriously, you could just not play into it if that's what is really going on. Just give her bland support, a "yeah, great, good luck with that" kinda deal. If it's a bid for attention she'll drop it after awhile when she sees it isn't working.