Relationships and Bisexualism

[brokenwings407]

Okay. My baby knows I'm bi curious. I have a slight attraction to girls and woman. My boyfriend and I started out as best friends so he knows all about my bi-curious thing. One day we were talking about three somes and he said he wouldn't care if we did one as long as I was okay with it. Well I told him I don't want to have a threesome with another girl because I've never actually been with a girl one on one. He said if I wanted to I could experiment.
Now the thing is... even though I have his consent... should I? I mean I'm a little curious. But I love him alot. And really he keeps me satisfied VERY well. And plus I refuse to have sex with just any girl. And my one friend told me just to have a threesome and try it out there but I got a few rules on threesomes in my mind. One: if the guy is mine she doesn't NOT touch. Two: if the guy is her's I probably wont touch him. Three: well I wont just have sex with just anyone so yea.

But yea haha sorry I ramble. But what are your opinions and thoughts?

[iamawesum69420]

Just because you want to experiment with other women doesn't mean you love him any less or that he doesn't satisfy you. It just means that you have that curiosity there and you would like to act on it. You're lucky that you have such a supporting boyfriend. I've talked to some guys who would never even dream of such a thing. Some have fears that their girlfriend, wife, etc.... is going to leave them for the woman. Others think that any type of sex other than the two of you together is cheating. I say that as long as the two of you have talked and come to an understanding, then it's great if you want to go out and experiment a little with the same sex.

Also, it's good that you already have rules in mind for the maybe future threesome. It is almost necessary to have set rules before you start. Everyone involved needs to have a conversation about exactly what is okay for everyone and what is not. Not having rules and boundaries in place can lead to a lot of hurt feelings, jealousy, and problems in the relationship.

[Whitechocolate38555]

I am an openly bisexual woman. I have to make it clear before i start any relationship (with a man) that i crave women. I love being with them. So far i have had no issues with this. I say you should experiment. If you don't then you may never know, and wonder for the rest of your life. Rules are great to have if you choose to experiment. They keep everyone on the same page.

[sera300]

I believe you owe it to yourself and to your partner to find the answer to your question; otherwise, you will have doubts forever. As long as you and he have "terms" which are agreed to I don't see where it should damage the relationship.

[Brandye]

A threesome is not the best setting to work out the bisexual feelings. About a third of all married women have a woman on woman relationship at some point in their lives. Some stay with it and some do not.

Seeing another woman - tea, shopping, lunch - raises no eyebrows while "dating " a man does. Bisexual relationships are much more common than believed by most people and nothing can be safer for a married woman. And we leave nothing behind inside each others' bodies!

Full disclosure: I am not married, in a primary relationship with another woman and actively bi-sexual.