Threesome Should It Happen?

[summerbreeze]

I have had a threesome before and I will tell you from my experience, that from what you have said, I do not think it would be a wise choice. My reason is because when you bring a third party in your bed, it can be exciting but it can also be very damaging to the relationship. You have to realize that there will be another women in bed with you and your man, and she will be getting his sexual attention just as much as you. You have to think to yourself, can you handle that. After you do it, there is no going back. For me and the man that I was with, we loved each other very much, but after the threesome, there was not much of "us" left anymore. There are times in a three some that he might focus on her a little more than you expected or like. This will lead to feeling ignored. After the threesome you might even find yourself wondering if he liked it so much will he do it without you sometime?

My point is that you both really need to think about this. A threesome can be really fun for you both, but it can also open up a ton of problems. You both need to sit down and have a serious conversation about this. Find out what exactly will be done. What he will be doing to you or her or what she will be doing to him. I know that in my situation I felt like the two of them enjoyed themself more than they did with me. So afterwards I always had the vision of her and him in my head. You surely don't want that.

From his response that he will think about it, it sounds like to me that he knows the possible problems that will occur and does not know if he wants to chance them happening or not, even though he knows you want to try it. You wanting to try a threesome does not mean that if you feel that you can share your partner that you are not truely committed. It simply means that you completely trust in that person and would like to spice things up a bit or try something new. Nothing wrong with that.

Just talk it over and do not rush into this. I would not do anything for at least a couple of weeks, to be able to make sure that you both understand the rules and that you both are capable of not letting this affect your relationship afterwards. Best of luck to you!

[athena]

My first threesome experience was a disaster. It wasnt planned. These guys are right when they say it can ruin a relationship if BOTH of you arent ready to try. I found myself kicked out of the threesome and only watching in jealousy..rest assured my relationship went down the drain.

[No1Norcaltom]

Thats really to bad you had a bad expirence on your first one, what do you mean you were kicked out? Do you mean that you got jealous over what the other two were doing and feeling, so you opted out? If thats the case, then you were missing out on the whole idea of the threesome. You should be more in touch with what turns you on about who your with and go after it. When I was with two women, it turned me on so much to watch them getting it on, that I just dove in with them and we all had a great time. good luck on your next time.

[oedipussy]

I'm guessing that she means she was excluded from the activities because it was all about the other two going at it.

It's not a threesome when someone gets left out - it's just cheating with permission while the other watches. Didn't we learn anything from that one episode of Friends?

I'm not sure what the original point of this topic was, but as for me, I've never had a threesome, and I doubt I ever will. It's never really been something that I've been interested in doing...

[athena]

yeah what i meant was i was excluded. i have had another threesome after that, and it was alot of fun. just a bad first experience

[shaved bi]

I have always enjoyed being with three or more. Everyone having fun!

[Yariome]

Originally Posted by ashley22

Isnt this every mans fantasy two be with two females?

Very wrong. I gain absolutly NO excitement out of two girls, sure I will gain just as much pleasure, but to be honest I don't find it more enjoyable than sex with my girl. Three somes are very fun, but I could care less if I had a 3some or not.

[Bush Bunny]

My partner and I are seriously thinking of a threesome. We have talked about it for about 6 months now and have discussed all the angles involved. We are still not quite ready to carry thru with it. I highly recommend there be rules and guidelines. Our rules for each other are very clear and we both agree and accept each others wishes. We also expect the other woman to respect our rules as well. Way I see it is you can't go into new territory without a map or you get lost, I want a map to follow and the rules are my map.

[sarah_rsl]

My suggestion for any woman that's been asked to have a threesome, would be to organise it herself. I agreed to do one with an ex boyfriend but rather than take his suggestion of partner who I didn't know I sorted it out with a friend, who I had some sexual experiences with (it was mainly just mutual masturbation)

It happened just like i planned it my friend and i kissed and cuddled (mainly for his benefit) then my bf had sex with her while she was in my arms then then again while my friend held me.

One issue we had was being in a long term relationship my bf and i didn't use condom but when it came to my friend I insisted he use one (he would have anyway) even when she went down on him.Which he wasn't used to.

But he did the business. I think he mainly enjoyed the stimulation of having two women in bed, and now that looking back I think he would have been happy just having her in the bed and snogging her, then shagging me.

It gave out sex lives a boost. Our relationship while relativly longterm (2years before it ended) wasn't that strong and ended when work seperated us. Its not something I would do with my husband now.

All in all the 3 some was more for my bf's benefit than mine, he loved it, he was quite open about if fufilling a sexual fantasy for him, and i was happy to do it.