turning bi?

[smart_mono]

since i was extrememly young i had always been attracted to boys. i am now in senior in high school and my best friend since tenth grade...a girl, we had always been really comfortable with eachother to the point where weve made out and touched eachother for no reason. she asked me if i wanted to have sex with her. i was open to the idea since i always wondered how it would be like with a girl.

i have had many experienced with three guys and i enjoyed them all. i never felt uncomfortable or anything. well, two days ago we were at her house and i ended up eating her out. i truly enjoyed it though. i was so freaking horny. yesterday, thinking about it i felt a tiny tiny tiny tiny tiny bit weirded out by it. i've never really seen girls as anything but friends but i really did enjoy my experience with my friend. we already agreed that will do more. does this mean that i am learning to like girls or something or is it that i just enjoy doing things with her. what do you think?

[oberon]

Sexual orientation comes in an extremely broad range. Everything from 100% straight to 100% gay and every grade in between. Personally, I define bisexual as anyone who seeks out and enjoys sex with both sexes. The "leaning" of your bisexuality depends on which sex you form a relationship with... romantically, not sexually. In other words, you might have a primary straight relationship and still enjoy occasional sex with men... or you might have a primary gay relationship and occasionally have sex with women.

Just be honest with any partners you have and always play safe. Other than that... enjoy yourself.

**Oops. Came back to add... you could be a "pure" bisexual and have relationships with both sexes as well as sex. It just depends on what you feel makes you happiest. Well, that and having understanding partners who can accept that you have equal interest in both sexes.

[smart_mono]

thank you for your reply! you helped me a lot.

[SexySass69]

There is no such thing as a 100% heterosexual person. Oberon alluded to the spectrum of human sexuality where homosexuals are at one end, bisexuals are in the middle and heterosexuals are at the other end. Think of it like a bell curve. Most people do fall rather close to the middle with slight leanings to one side or the other. Very few people are willing to admit that they have attraction toward the same gender though.

If you enjoy sexual and romantic relationships with both males and females then I would define that as bisexual. I do not believe that you "turn bi," simply that this is the first time that you really explored these feelings.

Always use protection! If you explore your sexuality further, there are female condoms which should help prevent STD's.

[Caitlain]

Originally Posted by oberon

Sexual orientation comes in an extremely broad range. Everything from 100% straight to 100% gay and every grade in between. Personally, I define bisexual as anyone who seeks out and enjoys sex with both sexes. The "leaning" of your bisexuality depends on which sex you form a relationship with... romantically, not sexually. In other words, you might have a primary straight relationship and still enjoy occasional sex with men... or you might have a primary gay relationship and occasionally have sex with women.

Just be honest with any partners you have and always play safe. Other than that... enjoy yourself.

**Oops. Came back to add... you could be a "pure" bisexual and have relationships with both sexes as well as sex. It just depends on what you feel makes you happiest. Well, that and having understanding partners who can accept that you have equal interest in both sexes.

I agree wholeheartedly with what he said, especially the middle sentence there.

[oberon]

Sorry, SexySass, but I'm going to disagree with you. I believe that there are 100% heterosexuals... just like I believe there are 100% homosexuals. I will, however, agree that there are probably FAR more bisexuals out there than anyone cares to admit.

[SexySass69]

OK Oberon, you can claim that there are 100% pure homosexuals and heterosexuals, however, the point remains the same that smart_mono is not alone and that whatever she feels comfortable with is right for her.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by SexySass69

OK Oberon, you can claim that there are 100% pure homosexuals and heterosexuals...

LOL... I can only speak for myself, SS, but I'm pretty sure I'm 100% gay. I love women... just not that way.

however, the point remains the same that smart_mono is not alone and that whatever she feels comfortable with is right for her.

This I will totally agree with!

[sexybigothchick]

most bisexuals choose to live straight because of denial or prejudice.

[cp3515]

I agree that there alot of bisexuals and they wont admit to it i for one feel that i am i have always been with girls i love girls and mainly attracted to girls i am married to a girl who i have madly although i have had one bisexual experience years ago me and another guy gave each other a blowjob and it was not bad at all i enjoyed it somewhat that is the only thing i have ever done with another guy i will probably never do it again but i don't regret that i did it once .