advantages to a threesome?

[jonnyonaleash]

ive been dating a girl for two years now...and yes love is involved. although the sex isint all that great...well not for her atleast. neither of us are all that interested in self exploration, the difference is i already know my body, she hasent clue one about the female anatomy. and like i said: doesent care to learn. witch can make it quite dificult to please her. on the other hand tho, she is facinated with learning about me...learning about others. witch could be good since she has expressed intrest in one of our freinds, our closest freind in fact...we both love her very much. and i have a feeling that involving her could be exactly the motivation my g/f needs to learn about pleasing women, and in doing so...learn more about herself. damn. this is getting way to long...basicaly is it posible that a threesome can help a loving relationship rather than hurting it?

[cavewoman362]

our closest freind in fact... [/QUOTE] I've seen a threesome do more harm then good to any relationship.....In my opinion, I don't care how secure you are in your relationship. You shouldn't need a 3rd person involved in your relationship. Send her to this site, have her read the helpful tips etc. go to the library, explore other ways for her to learn, but a 3some, if she isn't comfortable with herself with you; how in the world do you or her for that fact think she will be comfortable with anyother woman. I see a rage of jealousy coming out in this woman if you please this "closest friend" much more then you please her.... ...be very careful where you take your next step concerning your gf

[Brandye]

There are many threads on threesomes. Those looking forward generally see all great stuff. Those writing in the past tense, genrally found them damaging.

You are in a not so great relationship, at least sexually. Adding another huge variable will not improve things.

[jonnyonaleash]

well ive had a threesome before, and it wasent that bad of an experiance at all. however i wasent in love with either of them... and our relationship is fine. even sexualy (in fact for me its amazing) i just think it could be beter if she was willing to learn more about herself...theres only so much i can do with general knolage. (if youve noticed, half this site is "be gentile and let her tell you what she likes" "comunicate with your partner" "learn what your parner likes and dislikes" witch is hard to learn when she doesent know or care.)

she is comfortable with me tho, shes just the kind of person who prefers pleasing others, as am i...the diferance is she doesent care AT ALL about pleasing herself. if it werent for me or the ocational animal lust shed have no part in it. witch is why i thot she could learn about herself by playing with some1...similarly endowed. in fact i wasent planing on being all that involved at all. btw i mean "clossest freind" in a sence that we both basicaly tell her everything, she already has a good understanding of our relationship, shes had a crush on both of us for a long time (in fact shes the one who sujests a threesome...not for this reason tho) and my g/f has a crush on her
so we have involved her in our relationship in many ways (just never sexualy). she just has an uncanny ability to bring all of us even closer together wenever were with her.

i thank you both tho because even if i failed to describe the situation the best i could i think the general idea your trying to portray is that for the most part, no mater what...its not worth the risk. i guess thats what i wanted to know. maybe shel become more receptive (to learning about herself) as time goes on...although i have talked to her about it.

[Browser]

Threesomes usually end badly.

[star49gp]

Why is it that most men married or not have that fantasy so bad they really want it to be true?? even if they know or be told that is a bad experience why push it??

[Browser]

The logic behind a threesome is this:
One attractive woman is good. A different attractive woman is also good. Therefore, if we put them together (since more is always better, right?) then it is twice as good as having sex with both women sequentially and seperately.

Too bad it's not that simple.

[jonnyonaleash]

Originally Posted by Browser

The logic behind a threesome is this:
One attractive woman is good. A different attractive woman is also good. Therefore, if we put them together (since more is always better, right?) then it is twice as good as having sex with both women sequentially and seperately.

Too bad it's not that simple.

i think the point is being missed...its not the fantasy at all...ive experianced it and while it wasent as traumatizing as ive recently heard it can be, i also realize how...mediocre the whole thing is. and honestly i could care less if i was even present during this particular "threesome" id just feel less like it was cheating-ish if i was. the point is theres alot of things she could learn from a woman that i just cant teach her...and seeing as how shes bi, and has expresed intrest in a freind of ours i wasent going to be the one to keep her from that experiance...wether its a threesome or just the two of them...is that just as poor of logic? because i do really trust this freind of ours...

[star49gp]

jonny: arent' you scared of a bad consiquence?? Like her leaving you or you maybe feeling left out if your not involved??? I personally wouldn't want it to be a friend i would much rather meet someone i didn't know maybe outside my home town so that i know it is descreet.

[jonnyonaleash]

Originally Posted by star49gp

jonny: arent' you scared of a bad consiquence?? Like her leaving you or you maybe feeling left out if your not involved??? I personally wouldn't want it to be a friend i would much rather meet someone i didn't know maybe outside my home town so that i know it is descreet.

its some1 we both love and trust. some1 weve already included in our relationship in many ways. and to be honest, i only get jelous wen i fear something or some1 has the capability and the drive to separate me and my g/f...and in this case thats just not going to happen. i mean obviously anythings posible but i highly doubt it. and im usualy i ver sceptical and jelous person. witch is the only reason im even concidering anything like this...because for me not to be jelous of some1, boy or girl, theres gota be something special going on with that person.