Attracted to my therapist who might be gay...

[alexa]

I think this is where I should post this. I am wondering what the heck is going on with me.

I am very attracted to my therapist. This has never happened to me before. The problem is, I'm pretty sure he is gay. He's helping me with my relationship and sexuality issues and he just seems to know exactly what to do and the way he explains it is driving me wild.

Anyway, he owns a house with another man and I'm sure he's gay which could explain why he and I get along so well. I'm constantly fantasizing about him. He has no idea. At least I don't think he does. I'd be mortified if he knew.

But I also secretly want to have sex with him...I need to stop this...

My question for the gay men here is do you find that women are really into you and what do you do about it if anything? I wonder why I am attracted to him...you might not be able to help me with that answer!

[Brandye]

Every therapist in the world has been the focus of transference. Many patients experience this while "getting better." The gayness is absolutely irrelevant. The ethics of a therapist prevent him (or should) from acting on this.

Best solution: tell him during your next session and get this dealt with properly. Your continued fantasy will affect your getting better.

[oberon]

I agree with Brandye. Doesn't matter if he's gay or straight (or bisexual) as your therapist he's under the constraint of a doctor/patient relationship. You really do need to express your feelings to him so that they can be dealt with. If you can't get past these feelings then you may need to change therapists.

And, yes, as a gay man, I've had women who were "really into" me. I think it's because gay men aren't trying to impress you or get into your pants...lol... and we can just be ourselves- which makes most people more attractive. How I deal with it? Well, the statement that I'm gay usually keeps it from getting out of control, but I can be more direct if necessary.

[redrat]

Since he is your therapist change therapists them ask him out .It might be the best thing you ever did?

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[Brandye]

Rat,

That is terrible advice. The therapist relationship is the important one and should not be broken.