Problem with guys - Please help me.

[Jenneffer]

I've always had a problem with guys. I always feel disgusted when I touch or look at a penis (No offense to any guys reading this). And I am too scared to try being with a female. I know more about a female's body than I do about a guy's, obviously. But alot of my family is Christian. And I worry if I will do something wrong with a girl. My mom says she just wants to see me happy, but I have seen her call people fags and dikes. I don't know what to do! Will I die a virgin? Help, please...

[Brandye]

Jenn,

We each discover our sexuality in our own way. It is ours and ours alone and many men and women who go the "wrong way" do have problems within their families. Healthy families get over it.

Would your other be equally upset to discover your getting it on with the guy next door as with the girl on the other side?

[Luvs2plzU]

Get to a book store and read "Love is a choice" by Hemfelt,Minirth,Meire..check that spelling...

[hands_off_the_goods]

I'd say that if your family loves you, which I assume they do, they will love you no matter what. It may take awhile for them to understand and even accept it. Have patience and understand that you need to do what makes YOU happy. You come first then they do. Perhaps it is just that you aren't ready for sex yet. I was like that for a long time after my first time (but I was forced) If anything sex disgusted me for a long time, then I found this website and was reading more into it and it got me more open minded about it. Find out as much about sex as you can and even experiment (safely of course!) with your sexuality. If it doesn't feel right or you don't like it then stop and or try something new. Best of luck to you.

[sherxy]

just dun let them kno thats what i would do

[vendettasmistress86]

my sister is a lesbian... when she came out it made my dad not speak to her for a while.... but he eventually came around... and god is supposed to love his children no matter what... penis's are disgustin.... so are vagina's thats why they call it bumpin uglys... but you also have to think life is way to short to not live your dreams and be happy... so the best of luck to you! have any questions go ahead and add me!

[CJS-81]

Originally Posted by Jenneffer

I've always had a problem with guys. I always feel disgusted when I touch or look at a penis (No offense to any guys reading this). And I am too scared to try being with a female. I know more about a female's body than I do about a guy's, obviously. But alot of my family is Christian. And I worry if I will do something wrong with a girl. My mom says she just wants to see me happy, but I have seen her call people fags and dikes. I don't know what to do! Will I die a virgin? Help, please...

It's a shame you are not here in Australia. We have bi curious get-togethers where you can ask, look and play if you feel up to it... Perhaps they have similar places where you live?

Love is a weird thing - if you fall for a girl, i doubt you will feel afraid.

"Love breaks down all the walls and lets you be who you really are"