Sudden gay feelings.

[jacob1]

I've been straight all my life, I'm 17 and have had two girlfriends, and I've never been attracted to men. I've always been looking at good looking guys and taking them as good looking and nothing more.

I was watching brokeback mountain with my (then) girlfriend (we have now broken up, but not from sexual reasons). Discussing it I had the sudden urge to see what anal sex was like.

I just passed it off as curiosity but now I'm finding men more sexually attractive but I've never had a crush on a guy. I have current crush on a girl in my school. This is really confusing me! Am I actually gay? Bi? What??? It's practically eating me alive right now. I've never felt different from other guys and have always been fine with girls, a little on the shy side when talking to them.

I think it's just a phase. I've never been a homophobe, I in fact my oldest friend from primary school is in fact gay.
I do not think I am gay myself, I just can't seem to get these thoughts out of my head now.

Help?

Thanks.

[katiebug]

It's OK to be curious about what it would feel like to have anal sex. Maybe you don't necessarily want to be with a man, but want to know what it would feel like to experience that sensation? Does that make sense?

I don't know if you have ever seen it, but a few years back that movie "Cruel Intentions" came out and there was a scene in that movie in which a girl made out with another girl. I was around your age when that movie came out and after that I found myself wondering what it would be like to be with another girl myself. It was a curiousity thing for something I'd never experienced. I didn't end up acting on it, but the movie def put the idea in my head.

Everyone is curious sometimes. I've always wondered what it would be like to be with another girl but I don't plan to actively seek out that experience. I consider myself straight. But don't even worry about labeling your sexuality, your going to experience attraction to all kinds of people in your lifetime - male and female. It's normal.

[jacob1]

Thanks alot! Just the sort of comforting answer I need .

Is it quite normal to have these feelings constantly. Now that I have it in my head that I'm having feelings, I can't get it out of my head and it occurs all the time. Unless, that is, I'm with the girl I have a crush on.

[demonbuttercup]

Well wanting anal stimulation doesn't make you gay.
Many straight men enjoy fingers or maybe even the occasional dildo.
There doesn't necessarily have to be a body attached to the equipment.

[moose_hd]

Originally Posted by jacob1

Is it quite normal to have these feelings constantly. Now that I have it in my head that I'm having feelings, I can't get it out of my head and it occurs all the time. Unless, that is, I'm with the girl I have a crush on.

Many people believe sexuality is more of a scale as opposed to an absolute thing. You could easily be 80% heterosexual, 20% homosexual or similar. There is nothing wrong with accepting what you feel and maybe experimenting a little. Personally I think that 100% heterosexuality is rare, but unfortunately for hetero guys we learn to repress and fear anything anything else because male culture is so heavily intertwined with homophobic undertones.

As to myself, a couple of my gay friends have expressed interest. I might try it once just to know what it is like, but ultimately I am heterosexual and feel it is natural for me to only have sexual relationships with women.

[open to ideas]

follow your feelings. i am female and have just reasently takeing a count of the women i have had a crush on and it is more than i thought but that is normal just not talked about. i can say though i have had crushes on women i have never done anything with it and now i am in a relationship that i can see becoming a marrige. i kinda regret not having a homosexual relashonship before this. but i love my current partner.

[ClaireClaire]

Open to ideas,

I am experiencing the same thing right now. I'm serious about my current mate, and are looking towards marriage. I'm attracted to girls as well but have never acted on it. I don't regret not acting on it because I don't think I was ready before.

[open to ideas]

i was not ready then but now i feel like i am missing out.

[Newtolove]

well I often masturbate with a toothbrush handle up my anus it feels great and make a more fulfiling orgasm but I am certainly not gay just making the most of myself

[impactbmx]

i went thru the same crap when i was your age, and i still go in and out of liking gay sex. The best way to see if its for you is too try it if your given an oppertunity. I've done it twice, and its fun but i found its better left as a fantasy than a regular part of my sex life. Hope you figure it out soon.