am i bi?

[dragonfire5285]

hey this is my first time doing this so please excuse me. i am a married man and have had multiple instances where i have thought about having sex with a guy but have never really had the chance to try anything. i mean i have experimented with dildoes and other things and enjoyed it but when it came to actually doing something with another guy i have been hesitant and nervous. my wife knows that i might be bi and is willing to let me try it out with another guy but i just dont honestly know if i could. i seriously need some advice here.

[dancingdoc2]

How seriously do you take your marriage vows?

Apparently, she does not.

Are you bisexual? From your brief description, no. Sexual orientation is predicated upon the gender you are attracted to, and then, as with any other attraction--the individual.

> have thought about having sex with a guy but have never really had the chance to try anything.

So far you have a fantasy. If you choose to act upon it then perhaps you are simply curious.

> i mean i have experimented with dildoes and other things and enjoyed it but when it came to actually doing something with another guy i have been hesitant and nervous.

What does playing with toys have to do with being Gay or Bi-? Straight people have toys, also.

What are you specifically hesitant and nervous about?

[dragonfire5285]

I am very serious about my vows and would never be with anyone except my wife. Which is why I am here trying to figure it out instead of trying it with someone. My wife is bisexual herself and I think that is why she siad that she wouldnt mind me doing so. What I am nervous about is the actual acts of it. I mean its like the first time you have sex you know you want it but are unsure of it.

[champloo]

ive heard that doing things like that could end up causing a stop to your marriage. ( i mean actually having sex with someone else besides who you are married too, after getting permission and all that)

[ORANGE]

champoo is right

it could open a hole new cans of worms..

you may open the door for your wife to go out and do it with another guy or girl. not so worth it.....if your relationship is good.

[lapafrax]

I'd put this down to curiosity, if anything.

IMO, sexual orientation is about how you feel and what you're attracted to. You have to ask yourself if you really have sexual feelings to both men and women, or whether you could be romantically involved with both a man and a woman.

And no, using anal toys and dildos doesn't make you bi or gay in itself. Just because you like the sensations of anal penetration, that doesn't denote homosexuality or bisexuality.