am i bi if..?

[blooms]

ok i'm totally into woman and i love them and everything but when one of my friends comes over any time were both watching porn and were horny we'll usually start doing stuff. we don't make out but i'll give him a blowjob or take his penis in my butt of vise versa. Does this classify us as being bisexual or is this just our method of getting off? i'm not attracted to him in the way of "he's hot" but it is a pleasing experience and one that i look forward to when he comes but its only with 1 guy. or is this bi curious?

[iamawesum69420]

I think it's whatever you consider it to be. If you want to consider yourself bisexual than do so but if you'd prefer to refer to yourself as heterosexual or bi curious then by all means do so. I find that classifications of sexual orientation can be a bit restricting at times which is why I hate labeling people into such categories.

[The1stTriSexual]

I believe some others may say differently, but I think the fact that you could look down and see a guy giving you oral sex (or vice versa), and be fine with it, certainly qualifies you for being bi. I don't believe that you could just mark it off as a purely sexual act, and go on considering yourself straight.

Anyway, heres my reasoning behind that: There are numerous other methods of "getting off," (i'm thinking of the extremes specifically, like beastiality,,), that could also yield the same "purely sexual" experience, so do people go out there and do that just so their parts could be rubbed a certain way? No, you have to accept what you're going to do and be able to function and enjoy it. Thinking "ew ew ew ew ew" along the way would certainly hinder that.

So therefore, you're half gay.

[blooms]

o i know i'm fine with it otherwise i would not be doing this. Thanks for the help it really assured me that i'm not the only one and that is what i was fearing is that this nature could persuae me to turn gay and i was concerned. Thank you

[southern_guy]

You are BI. No doubt about it. Not hating you for it, if you like it keep at it just be safe.

[Rawbob]

Well, being a man who was married to a woman for 12 years, and has been in an LTR for the last 10 with a man, i can say without ANY HESITATION that you are bi!

Oral sex between 2 men would qualify for bi, but having anal sex - yep!

As far as your ultimate orientation, only you and time will tell u for sure!

As you grow older you'll know in your heart if u are gay or not.

[demonbuttercup]

I agree w/ Rawbob... I was hoping his wisdom would chime in here
I was curious though, how did doing that w/ your guy friend come about? I mean did he instigate? did you? Did it just begin as touching eachother and then progress after that?
Only b/c I have noticed in your other posts that you've only had sex w/ a girl twice? I think it was.... but how many times w/ your friend?
You expressed how you have a hard time getting the courage to talk to girls and also that when you do things w/ girls... there isn't really any pleasurable feeling. Does the same go for when you do things w/ your guy friend??
Could be you have just become comfortable w/ him and doing things w/ a girl just stresses you out, therefore its not as pleasurable.

[blooms]

ya i think demonbuttercup you may b right, i mean me and him r REALLY close (obviously ha) but like, i don't know lately i have not been wanting the guy or any guy for that matter as much, ya demonbuttercup you were right this is the same guy and everything, i don't know how it came about, we were watchin porn and he made a joke bout it and started touchin me down there and we kinda slowly went at it.. i don't know tho because i don't like the wholle anal and i'm not turned on by him i think its just the whole, were both naked so we both r hard, i don't know, if i'm bi i'm bi i don't mind i mean thats who i am i'm jus lookin for a second opinion and if this may just b a phase i'm going through. i'm relaxed with a girl if i know them and if we've done stuff in the past but new girls and tryin to make 1st moves on girls is what gets me bad

[oberon]

Hi Blooms,
Well, it doesn't sound like you need any reassurances on the subject. You're just curious what to call it. LOL That's excellent.

But since you asked, I'll give MY definitions for sexual orientations...

Heterosexual- only has sex and relationships with the opposite sex

Homosexual- only has sex and relationships with the same sex

Bisexual- has sex AND/OR relationships with both sexes

In my opinion, bisexual covers a wide range of sexuality. For instance, a male bisexual... might have relationships and sex with women, but only sex with men... or might have relationships and sex with men but only sex with women. I would consider an "absolute" bisexual one who engaged in both sex and relationships equally with both men and women. Confusing, what? LOL

In your case, it sounds like convenient sex. I'm seeing that you are fairly young... so when fully active with women, you may or may not ever be interested in gay sex again. In my opinion, again, you'll always be bisexual but that doesn't mean you'll always participate in bisexual activity.

Just be honest with any potential partners as to your motives for sex/relationship and you'll be fine.

Take care.

[oberon]

Double post... bloody board! LOL