am i bi if..?

[LoverGirl]

I date and sleep with men, but have also had sex with a woman and fooled around with others on different occasions. I am primarily attracted to men, as that is what I seek out. I have been attracted to women, but it was always more of a situtational thing, whereas I am always attracted to men. I don't feel any urge to date a woman though. I am very comfortable with my sexuality and I am fine with having bisexual tendancies, but what I'm wondering is what is it that makes one more attracted to one sex. Is it purely the sexual act I am attracted to? And if not, then why do I not want to date women? Is it then just society that subconsiously forces us to into who we want to have a relationship with? Anyway, just looking to hear some different thoughts on the topic, thanks.

[Brandye]

The scientific data are very strong that male sexual preferences are greatly determined genetically. The evidence is just beginning to build with respect to women. That leaves bi-, such as I in the middle.

Same sex affairs among women seem to be much more common than once realized. I have seen studies that estimate that up to 30% of married women have woman partners once in a while. It appears that sexual preference is gentically determined but we can learn alternative behaviours. The stigma, or at least the suspicion, among women friends is not as strong as for men.

[bilovely]

Bisexuality is just a term. You don't have to call yourself anything if you don't want to. Do what you want to do and be safe about it!