lack of pleasure

[startedyoung]

i enjoy looking at females, but i also enjoy being with my hubby. i have a fantisy of being with a female, but unsure weather to tell hubby.
what to do?

[Brandye]

Only you can answer that question.

There are as many males who would freak out as there are who would support a lesbian affair for you. Risky and only you know him. You think.

There is increasing evidence of married women having same sex affairs. What can be safer? Visiting a friend of the same sex does not raise the questions expected if you see a man. Cannot get pregnant. If you are both married, you can learn together to deal with it. An issue expressed to me is the left over semen the other may have in her and not wanting to eat another man by proxy. Use your imagination.

Same sex affairs do have some of the same dangers of heterosexual affairs. Such as deciding you like that better and end up with a divorce.

[oberon]

Yeah, Brandye, that's pretty much what I was going to say.

Anytime you start discussing fantasies with a partner you have to be sure the relationship is stable enough to handle it. You might ask yourself how you would feel if your husband said he had fantasies about men. Adding another person to a relationship also adds all their baggage and interpersonal conflicts.

As Brandye said, only you can decide if your relationship is strong enough to handle it.

[fenceguy]

I tend to agree.........I am a bi-married guy in the same situation......

[Rawbob]

There's a big difference between having a fantasy, and acting on it. All healthy relationships are based on honesty, so if you're having hetero fantasies, there is little harm in talking about them with your partner. However, acting on them is a big difference.

Trying to explain a fantasy is alot easier then explaining why you did somethign behind your lover/partner's back.