Bi-sexual guidelines

[impactbmx]

Sounds dumb i know but where is the line drawn? Are you considered bi-sexual if you just have same-sex intercourse or is it when your actually emotionally attached to someone of the same sex?

I think its mostly with the emotional side, at least in my own expierence. What do you all think?

[Brandye]

If you are active with both, you are bisexual. By definition.

Women seem, according to the literature, to be more receptive to same sex liaison than men. It is not uncommon among teen aged women and I have seen studies that estimate as high as thrity percent of middle aged married women have at least tried it.

We can, after all, get most of the same satisfaction with no risk of pregnancy and little chance of our outside relationship being exposed.

[oberon]

Sorry, Brandye, but I'm going to disagree with you.

I think you are bisexual if you are sexually aroused by both sexes. *After all, you can be gay or straight and never have sex. *It's not all about the act, it's about the emotions involved as well.

To parphrase Jeff Foxworthy:
"If you look at Brad and Angelina and think, 'I'd do them both... together or separately.' then you might be a bisexual."

[Brandye]

OK

[HngLkAMouse]

Well... I "think" I fall under the "Bi-Curious" category... but I am no expert.

I am a happily married man who LOVES women. Aroused by seeing heterosexual porn and I have NEVER been w/ a man.

BUT... I do have a curiosity about experiencing the act of giving oral or masturbating a penis (other than my own) to completion. I can't explain it. The sight nor thought of "men" do NOT get me aroused... I do not find guys "attractive"... I never want to hug or kiss one nor do anything "anal" (giving nor receiving)...

Yet, for some odd-reason... I fantasize about making a cock cum with either my hand, mouth or both.

It is the thought of performing the act... NOT the man, that arouses me. I have seen "gay" porn clips from the web and they do not excite me... as a matter of fact... they kind-off turn me off and I get flacid. In my fantasy, I NEVER see the guy... only the cock.

So - having said all that... and knowing that even if I NEVER follow-through, I am VERY happy with my wife and still FULLY turned-on by women... My best "guess" would be that I'm either just Straight and inquisitive... or Bi-Curious... but by no means am I Bisexual.

My "perfect" scenarios would either be:
( A ) If i were physically capable of performing oral on myself, I would satisfy my "curiosity" THAT way...
( B ) If I had a "clone"... *heheheh
( C ) If my WIFE were a true Hermaphrodite and STILL had her normal female parts, but also had a functioning penis... THAT would be the best solution. It wouldn't be cheating NOR gay... but still fun!


Peace...

[impactbmx]

haha funny you said that, thats EXACTLY how i was. Guys dont turn me on or anything but hte idea of it all is kind of hot from time to time. I'm glad i tried it and i'd recommend giving it a shot yourself if the wife is cool with it. Hope it all works out for you!

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (HngLkAMouse @ Sep. 05 2005,05:19)]It is the thought of performing the act... NOT the man, that arouses me. I have seen "gay" porn clips from the web and they do not excite me... as a matter of fact... they kind-off turn me off and I get flacid. In my fantasy, I NEVER see the guy... only the cock.

Hi Hng,

One word for you... "Gloryhole".

[HngLkAMouse]

As good as that advice may be... there are way-too-many reasons I couldn't/wouldn't do that.

(1) First & foremost, I would consider that cheating. I have never cheated on any girlfriend nor my wife and I never would. My wife does not know of my secret fantasy and I am confident that it would disapoint her. She wouldn't LEAVE me or anything, but I know she would not be happy about it. I love her too-much to ruin our relationship by either cheating or telling her of this.

(2) Health & cleanliness... I would worry too-much that the "person" on the other-side might be less-than-healthy or carrying some sort of STD. How do you explain to your wife that you gave her an STD because you went to a glory-hole...?

(3) Lastly... although I have had time to work-out my feelings and better understand my "desire"... I have also realized that it might be better-off remaining a fantasy. I know that if I NEVER experience it, I will STILL be a happy man in a loving relationship with a healthy and happy sex-life.

Thank you for the suggestion... and believe me - the THOUGHT had crossed my mind a few times... but I don't even know where to FIND one... plus I'd never want to be recognized... etc. It's just "too much to risk" just for a small fantasy.



Peace, all...!!!

[oberon]

I was actually sort of kidding. *I'm glad to know that you'd consider this cheating... so would I. *However, to answer some of you issues...

2. *If you just masturbate the other person, I don't think it's that big of a health risk. *Also, there is little proof that HIV is transmitted through oral sex. * Yes, there is a possibility (especially if you have open wounds- like bleeding gums) in the mouth). *And you could always use a condom.

3. *Many adult video stores have gloryholes... the stores that have "peep shows". *Used to be 25 cents...lol. *Anyway, that's sort of the point of gloryholes... you DON'T get a chance to recognize the other person. *

The "feelings about this fantasy", you'll- as you already know- have to work out yourself. *Again.. I'm just discussing here... not actually suggesting that you give this a try.

Take care.

[xXxIrAsLaDyXxX]

i have to put my input in on it i am bi sexual alot of people think cause they experiment with the same sex that they are but that my friend is called bi curiouse. If you are attracted to the same sex it is normal noone will ever go through life with out being attracted or arroused by the same sex happens to all the people in this world so calm a little and take each day as it comes