I might be bi-sexual

[Tessie]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]As for "bisexuality being fashionable"... did I miss something? It might be true for women... although I think most men like the idea in fantasy, but less in reality. However, I'm pretty sure that a guy saying he's bisexual is far from the ideal way to look "cool".

Now I would agree with that one. The bi-guy I know would die if he was found out, where women can be totally free about it and their men for the most part are turned on with it. Especially if they can watch. I only have experience with my swinger site but I would say its at least 90% bi-curious women to maybe 5% bi-curious men.

Akuma I would say right now your not bi at all. Its normal and a sign of a smart guy that can appreciate another man without getting all weird about it. Like Oberon I can totally admire a woman and not want to have sex with her.

[Greendale]

Yeah, like Rawbob said, that doesn't make guys gay just because you find a guy good lookin', all straight guys talk about good looking guys all the time, doesn't mean you think in a sexual way though.

I too am a little bi-curious though. I do have sexual fantasies over guys, I like to look at photos of nude men and gay porn, and I've always wondered what it's like to have a cock in my mouth since I have never done anything like that before. Would I ever do something like that if the opportunity comes to me? Sure, maybe. But I wouldn't have sex with some random man I don't know. I'll have to know him well and long enough to trust him to not tell anyone. I keep the bi-curious fantasies as a private sexual thing of mine. There's nothing wrong with that.

[petunya]

I guess just to underscore the point everybody else is making:

Finding someone of the same sex sexually attractive does not mean you are bi/gay. I frequently see beautiful women and realize how sexy they are, but I have no urge to have sex with them in any way. It's sort of a "sizing up the enemy" thing I guess, but I don't really consider them my enemies. I admire their sexiness and beauty and wish I could look similar. It doesn't make me gay or bi.

I've even had a dream where one of my close female friends was touching me, and while it made me uncomfortable, it was an interesting dream. I even told her about it, and she was kind of flattered. She's recently been thinking that she is bisexual. She has kissed a lot of girls, which has made me wonder what it's like to kiss a woman, and I've seriously considered doing it. But I've never thought that I was bisexual, because I've never wanted to stimulate (or be stimulated by) a woman.

I think all you have to do is ask yourself "Do I WANT to have sex with a man?" and really think about what that would mean, if the thought arouses you, etc. If the answer is "no" then you're probably, most likely, not bisexual. If the answer is "yes" then you should think about it some more and really figure out what you want; what would make you happy.

[margaret]

I was standing in the kitchen and I realised I wanted to hold the hand of a girlfriend, and I wanted to hug her in the movies..and I'd never wanted to do any of this with a woman before.
I was 42.
She was 25.
I remember saying out loud, Bugger it Margaret, you're gay. (ok, bi)
It was a shock.
When I went and thought about it I realised I was reacting to the person, not the gender. If you analyse it right down you may find some things that you like in the opposite sex are coming through in the same gender.
With her, it was strength, a good attitude, energy, a desire to work well, and the fact that she liked me and gave me presents occasionally. We also went to martial arts so there was touching and consensual fighting involved. And we looked around for other classes too at times..so we had made our own gang.
I told hubby 6 months later. It was too important not to tell. He told me he liked her too and he could understand how I felt. By then she had moved to a new job.
I never told her how I felt..I could have ruined her life by asking her to accept me over men and marriage..and her mum would have killed me for interrupting her life. What good reasons. How sensible.
I could kick myself for never letting her know..