He goes down on me

[terence394]

I am a 26yo straight guy with a girlfriend who just recently moved into a new apartment. I have always been 100% straight and never even thought about doing anything with guys. So this guy living across the hall recently had a party and invited me. At the end of the evening we were a bit tipsy, watching the playboy channel, and long story short, he ended up giving me a blowjob. It was the most explosive, mind-blowing orgasm of my life. He did it so good I came in about two a half minutes. Well since then, my girlfriend gave me a few blowjobs and suddenly I no longer climaxed with her. Its like I suddenly noticed she was lousy at it because this guy is so much better! So I now find myself knocking at this guy's door on a regular basis and he will give me a no-strings blowjob whenever I want. I have no desire to reciprocate and he never asks me to. I never look at any men in a sexual way and still stare at every pretty lady I see! But yet I receive oral sex from a guy on a regular basis and it is so good that sometimes I will knock on his door multiple times in the same day! What does this mean? Does this make me any sort of gay or bi-sexual? Is this normal at all? Are there any other straight men who receive oral from other guys?

[monie]

Just a thought... do you realize you're cheating on your girlfriend with this guy?

[Greendale]

Yep what monie said, sounds like your cheating. No matter what sexual act you're doing with someone else behind your girlfriend's back, that is cheating. So you're screwed.

And to answer the first question, it doesn't qualify you as gay if it's just a blowjob by a guy nothing more. All it is just oral sex. Lots of straight guys out there kind of do things like that when they watch porn together 'cause it's their way of getting off.

[vagabondprince]

"sexual relations" include more than just intercourse.

and the technical def of homosexual is prefering sexual relations with someone of the same sex, and of bisexual is enjoying relations with both sexes.

i'd say you're bi probably.

and like the other two have said, you're cheating on your girlfriend. cheating is wrong

[WallyLlama]

Not that anyone would ever think this is a fairly conservative forum!

I think you've answered your own question about the gayness of it.

It's technique.

If it was a woman living across the hall and she had this guy's technique, my guess is you'd be knocking on HER door multiple times a day as well. (And probably not posting a question about it. LOL)

You say you're not attracted to guys... that would be a necessary component of being gay or bi, I'd think. You've found a sex machine.

I'd suggest you figure out what it is about this guy's technique that works and start teaching it to your girlfriend! That'll make everybody happier!

[i just fall into the meadow]

Like the others said, you are cheating. I know that isnt what this post is about, but you shouldn't just let things like that happen- especially multiple times a day.

I would say that you could be considered bisexual if you will let a guy give you a blowjob. If your open to the idea of another guy getting you off, you are most likely in some way attracted to it. If you weren't you probably wouldn't have gone back after the first time it happened, or it wouldn't have happened at all.

I would not say your gay unless you suddenly completely switch over to guys, which is not a bad thing, but I'd consider that you first do something about your girlfriend. Maybe break up with her, or stop seeing this guy..

Nothing pisses a girl off more than cheating except you cheating on her with a guy! then she feels like not only are you not getting it good enough from her, but that she's so bad she's turned you to guys...

[Greendale]

Plus, you wouldn't realize how piss the girl would be if you told her the truth about having the guy give you a blowjob. If she is happy with it all of a sudden and if she finds it a turn on, then you may be lucky enough for a threesome if the guy that give you a blowjob is bi as well. Lucky you.

But if she's pissed, she'll probably dump you. So the best thing to do is make your choice. Go with the girl or go for the guy. You can't have two things at the same time. You also have to realize that the guy is just using you for sex since you allowed him to do it, you became a target for him, he's now thinking, "hHmmmm, now I can give him a blowjob anytime I want now". That's why he allowed you to go down to his apartment to get blown any time you want.

So make your decision.

[Jaybee]

Bi.

No shadow of doubt here.

The last man to touch my dick, other than my good self, had a degree in Medicine. One of the guys we all go drinking with has a Napoleon complex about bigger guys like me, and when things get especially raucous he'd grab my crotch.

However, I've told him in no uncertain terms that the next time he does it, hopefully on CCTV, I'll sue him for sexual assault to head off his own legal action AFTER I've castrated him off-screen.



On a lighter note, don't feel too guilty about all this. However, I do feel you should own up to yourself about your feelings first, and that is much more important than owning up to your girlfriend. Once you know where you stand, you can tell her where she stands.

I know this is all confusing for you, but try to set your mind to making the effort to make sense of it. I have long suspected that bisexuality is far more widespread, albeit surpressed, than anyone believes. I think up to a 1/3rd of all men would be bi if they lived in a culture that encouraged multisexuality, not simply tolerated it.

I myself am a committed hetero - and a Christian. I admit I take a less than positive view of two men together, but also readily admit to being incredibly turned on by two WOMEN being together. The implication here is that you should do good within your abilities; if that sounds like I'm moralising with you, I am. I don't believe homosexuals should try to curtail themselves; but at least, be honest with this girl. And to do that, you need to be honest with yourself.

Well, off you go. You have a bit of work to do, and I wish you speedy hands and mind to do it.


Jaybee.

[oberon]

Maybe you could send your girlfriend to your neighbor for lessons?

[Tessie]

LMAO Oberon! That was my exact thought too *

I happen to agree with Wally in that I wonder if it had been a girl giving the mind blowing blow job would you have these same concerns with being gay. Not that you couldn't be some form of bi. There are like a tons of different ways people enjoy sex with people of the same sex.

I won't go there with the cheating. I think that one was done enough. *