He goes down on me

[Jracer]

Maybe because he really knows what he's doing? Going to say the same as the others and send your GF over for Blowjobs 101

JR

[Rawbob]

Ok...i'll pass on the "cheating" comments, since my esteemed co-users have covered that point.

Now, remember, i'm the guy who's gay, was married for 12 years, has a 14 year old son, and didn't really come to accept or even know i was gay till about 9 years ago! Ok....that said.

There's a joke we tell among many of my gay buds: "Whats the difference between a str8 man and a bi man? A 6-pack of beer! haahahha

Yes, booze CAN often cause us to lose alot in inhibitions....but rarely to the point where we will do things we have an overt dislike for. So, does that mean that there's a chance you have had bi/gay fantasies...yes. Does it mean you're GAY? No. That said...must ask you to be honest about your neighbor:

How long have you known him before the party?
Did you see him with female dates often? Ever?
Were you socially friendly with him before the party?

THere IS a chance that your first bj from him was all about alchohol and opportunity......but the fact that you both are getting sexually active on a daily basis tells me that you're both a bit more into man2man activity then you may have thought. Now, i have been there, so i know you're just trying to rationalize how you can just get your dick sucked and go on with your normal str8 life....and u can for a long time...but trust me...there will come a time when you will have to look deep inside and be honest with yourself about your sexuality.

My advice is kinda off the wall..but, here goes:

1) Tell you GF that you want to just date..that you're not ready to be totally committed to a relationship at this point. No need to tell her about the bi activity at this point. If she will still be open to dating you....then you will have to discuss the reality of safe sex and how you have or will have sex with others (just part of dating in today's day and age).
If she says she only wants a long-term relationship with you, then you may have to just break it off.
2) You need to explore your sexuality. Since you already have a sexual relationship with your neighbor, you might want to just take it to the next level and try it all. Thats right.....talk to him about trying more. You should suck on him..and explore your sexuality (safer sex please).

While i've always said being gay is NOT about sex.....for many men - like me - most awakenings of our sexuality happen during random acts like Terrence's.

So, find out. IF you keep going to him for sex, you probably WILL progress to more and varied kinds of sex with him (or other guys)...so you owe it to yourself and your future partners - and your mental well-being - to figure things out.

Now there may be some who say, hey, it's just a bj and yes he's cheating..but if he were single it's still just a bj. Well, yes, but here's the HUGE difference in what you're doing...you KNOW he's a man..you KNOW you're a man ..you KNOW you like what he's doing for you and you keep going back for more. Clearly you're comfortable with whats going on mentally to the point that you go back many times.

I think you do need to at least break it off with you GF or tell her you want to date others....no sense in potentially hurting her!

[oberon]

Okay, I don't want to detract from the original question here, but this post sort of bothers me. If anyone is interested in why, then you can look for my response under the topic of "Justifying Your Sexuality".