Ever wanted to ask a gay person a question..

[oberon]

Hi Anon,

Yes, you could be confusing emotions. However, I believe that sexual orientation operates on a range from 100% heterosexual to 100% homosexual... with an awful lot of gray area in between. You could just have a "girl crush" on this woman or this may be the first (or only) woman that you'll have sexual feelings for. In MY OPINION- note the caps... it's ONLY my opinion- this would make you bisexual. If you are at all uncomfortable with the idea of being bisexual, then fortunately for you you never have to act on it (I think that's maybe a perk of bisexuality... LOL).

The bottom line is that whatever your sexual orientation, it's okay. If you don't feel comfortable taking this any further, then just enjoy the fantasy.

[Beans518]

Ok. I have a friend who has a 6 yr. old son and he has a hard time at school because all of his peers call him names like faggot. He does have some efeminate (?) mannerisms Like one time my daughter was at her house and her son walks up to her and says " I love your scarf and boots, they're beautiful, can I wear them" and he puts them on. Things like that has her dander up about if her son is gay.She says stuff like she'll kill herself or his step-father wouldn't let him be gay.I keep trying to tell her that it's not a choice and she needs to prepare herself to be the loving and supporting parent that she is suppose to be, because being gay does not mean that he is doomed to live a hard life and if that doesn't start at home how will he ever be comfortable with hisself? Is there anything I can tell her to make her stop acting like it's the end of the world and help her help him discover who he is.

[open man]

ok, I'll bite too.

I am at a point in my life where my wife and I are opening our relationship and entertaining fantasies coming to reality. I have fantasied often of two women and myself, and now really starting to fantasize more on my wife myself and another male, a first it was just her being the center of attention with two males with no male/male exchange and the turn on for me was very high, and the turn for her also very high. Although recently, my fantasies have included some male/male exchange, mostly myself performing oral on him and usually through completion, meaning licking cum and swallow along with the help of my wife. Now I do not ever see face of male or desire to kiss a male, all i see is tight abs, tight ass, well defined shaved chest, and a good looking clean hard slightly larger than normal penis. Now this really turns me on, however when I see bi-porn where men kiss and perform oral where I see faces I do not get turned on at all. I don't feel bi-sexual yet I think of my turn on's and question it.

1. My question is I guess what is your opinion?

2. This one is simpler, do all gay man perform oral sex to completion? (swallow/licking cum)

[DVDBear]

Originally Posted by Beans518

Ok. I have a friend who has a 6 yr. old son and he has a hard time at school because all of his peers call him names like faggot. He does have some efeminate (?) mannerisms Like one time my daughter was at her house and her son walks up to her and says " I love your scarf and boots, they're beautiful, can I wear them" and he puts them on. Things like that has her dander up about if her son is gay.She says stuff like she'll kill herself or his step-father wouldn't let him be gay.I keep trying to tell her that it's not a choice and she needs to prepare herself to be the loving and supporting parent that she is suppose to be, because being gay does not mean that he is doomed to live a hard life and if that doesn't start at home how will he ever be comfortable with hisself? Is there anything I can tell her to make her stop acting like it's the end of the world and help her help him discover who he is.

If she's open to it there's lots of good support material out there she can access, like the book LOVING SOMEONE GAY or she could contact the local chapter of PFLAG and talk to other parents on how they adjusted. You're absolutely right . . . . the most important acceptance needs to come from the parents in the early years. If they approach it like their kid has a disease or something they can change they'll be setting him up for major psychological problems or worse later in life.

[DVDBear]

Originally Posted by open man

ok, I'll bite too.

I am at a point in my life where my wife and I are opening our relationship and entertaining fantasies coming to reality. I have fantasied often of two women and myself, and now really starting to fantasize more on my wife myself and another male, a first it was just her being the center of attention with two males with no male/male exchange and the turn on for me was very high, and the turn for her also very high. Although recently, my fantasies have included some male/male exchange, mostly myself performing oral on him and usually through completion, meaning licking cum and swallow along with the help of my wife. Now I do not ever see face of male or desire to kiss a male, all i see is tight abs, tight ass, well defined shaved chest, and a good looking clean hard slightly larger than normal penis. Now this really turns me on, however when I see bi-porn where men kiss and perform oral where I see faces I do not get turned on at all. I don't feel bi-sexual yet I think of my turn on's and question it.

1. My question is I guess what is your opinion?

2. This one is simpler, do all gay man perform oral sex to completion? (swallow/licking cum)

1. I don't think it's all that unusual a fantasy, even for a straight guy. The fact you block out all personality specifics of the other male is very telling. My guess is you probably wouldn't enjoy the real thing where that's not possible.

2. No. 90% of the time I don't (and neither does my partner). We just don't like the texture of it in our mouths. If I'm really worked up I might do it, and the concept is very hot, but I usually regret it after the fact. But speaking in more general terms it's probably more often gay men do, percentage-wise.

[anony1]

Originally Posted by oberon

Hi Anon,

Yes, you could be confusing emotions. However, I believe that sexual orientation operates on a range from 100% heterosexual to 100% homosexual... with an awful lot of gray area in between. You could just have a "girl crush" on this woman or this may be the first (or only) woman that you'll have sexual feelings for. In MY OPINION- note the caps... it's ONLY my opinion- this would make you bisexual. If you are at all uncomfortable with the idea of being bisexual, then fortunately for you you never have to act on it (I think that's maybe a perk of bisexuality... LOL).

The bottom line is that whatever your sexual orientation, it's okay. If you don't feel comfortable taking this any further, then just enjoy the fantasy.

LOL- "girl crush"- never thought about it. I'm at mid-life, far from adolesence... who knew? I think I feel better just by "saying" it out loud, even on an anonymous internet board. It is an intoxicating feeling at this time in my life. As for acting on it, since we are both in committed relationships that is not likely to happen. I value her friendship too much. Thanks for responding!

[oberon]

Originally Posted by Beans518

Ok. I have a friend who has a 6 yr. old son and he has a hard time at school because all of his peers call him names like faggot. He does have some efeminate (?) mannerisms Like one time my daughter was at her house and her son walks up to her and says " I love your scarf and boots, they're beautiful, can I wear them" and he puts them on. Things like that has her dander up about if her son is gay.She says stuff like she'll kill herself or his step-father wouldn't let him be gay.I keep trying to tell her that it's not a choice and she needs to prepare herself to be the loving and supporting parent that she is suppose to be, because being gay does not mean that he is doomed to live a hard life and if that doesn't start at home how will he ever be comfortable with hisself? Is there anything I can tell her to make her stop acting like it's the end of the world and help her help him discover who he is.

I can't add too much to what DVD said. The only other resource for help I might suggest is a local Gay Helpline or Center. They have all the resources available for your area as well as trained staff to deal with such issues.

As for her attitude so far, neither she nor the step-father have a choice. If he's gay, he's gay. You are very right in repeatedly telling her (or them) that they need to deal with their issues or they could have one of the all too common gay teen suicides on their hands.

Came back to add... You might also emphasize that there is nothing wrong with being gay and there is nothing he could do as a straight man that he can't as a gay man (self-worth/happiness-wise). He can still have a wonderful life with a loving partner, good job, and even children if he desires.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by open man

ok, I'll bite too.

I am at a point in my life where my wife and I are opening our relationship and entertaining fantasies coming to reality. I have fantasied often of two women and myself, and now really starting to fantasize more on my wife myself and another male, a first it was just her being the center of attention with two males with no male/male exchange and the turn on for me was very high, and the turn for her also very high. Although recently, my fantasies have included some male/male exchange, mostly myself performing oral on him and usually through completion, meaning licking cum and swallow along with the help of my wife. Now I do not ever see face of male or desire to kiss a male, all i see is tight abs, tight ass, well defined shaved chest, and a good looking clean hard slightly larger than normal penis. Now this really turns me on, however when I see bi-porn where men kiss and perform oral where I see faces I do not get turned on at all. I don't feel bi-sexual yet I think of my turn on's and question it.

1. My question is I guess what is your opinion?

2. This one is simpler, do all gay man perform oral sex to completion? (swallow/licking cum)

1. Well, I'd say that whatever fantasy you enjoy is fine. As for turning fantasy to reality... why not?? There isn't a "sex police" (at least not yet) to tell you that you have to do anything you don't want to do. If you decide to try it just be honest with a new "playmate" what you want to experience... and the fact that you might decide to opt out at anytime.

Actually, that's a basic rule for any three-way activity. The ground rules should be VERY clear to ALL parties.

2. No "all" of any group always does anything. Some do. Some don't. Some do sometimes. It's the way the world works.

HOWEVER... before taking anyone else's bodily fluid into your body, you should know that person VERY (VERY!!!!!!) well. To my knowledge, there have never been any conclusive cases of HIV/AIDS spread through oral sex... but why take the chance? There are other STDs that can be spread this way. They may not be as deadly, but again... why take the chance? Always remember to play safe.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by anony1

Thanks for responding!

You're welcome! Hope it helped.

[open man]

Thank you for your input Oberon and DVDbear...