Ever wanted to ask a gay person a question..

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by echo1

I have always been hetro. I also have a fantasy that involves another man. I don't know if I should just keep it to myself or try and make it a reality. I've never been with another man before but this fantasy always makes me want to try..... What should I do?

First things first; what is the other man's orientation and interest? Until you have an answer for this then you would be advised "to just keep it to myself".

There is nothing wrong with any fantasy, even bizarre ones, so long as you do not act out on them.

Before anybody has sex, don't you think it a good idea to get to the person, first. Once you know what his orientation and interests are you will be better able to determine whether your fantasy should remain private, or, whether you should discuss it with him and then decide what to do.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by echo1

I have always been hetro. I also have a fantasy that involves another man. I don't know if I should just keep it to myself or try and make it a reality. I've never been with another man before but this fantasy always makes me want to try..... What should I do?

Hi Echo,
If you are single and not involved with anyone then that's the time to try out your fantasies. If you have a partner, then it's more difficult to engage in fantasies that involve someone else. My personal opinion is that in such a case you'd need the approval of your partner.

That being said, there isn't a "sex police"- at least, not yet- who require that you choose a sexuality and stick to it. If you want to explore this, then go looking for someone who would be interested. Make yourself very plain- as in, "I'm only looking for an experience. NOT a relationship." I'm sure you'll find people interested. Get to know the person and make sure it's someone you feel safe with. Above all, play safe.

Good luck and take care.

[moose_hd]

I hope you are not insulted by this question... here goes:

As a gay guy, do you get aroused by your own body? For example could you look in the mirror and mastrubate the same way I might mastrubate while looking at images of attractive women? (Rawbob, I think you are pretty darn good looking btw. )

[nursefluffykins]

rawbob u mentioned that you were married prior to realizing/accepting that you were gay, and that you even were somewhat of a homophobe... how did you start to realize that you were homosexual, ... when you were married did this affect your sex life? you mentioned that you loved your wife so i guess you were able to share an emotional connection with her... you dont have to answer if you find this too personal, i'm just curious in part because my boyfriend is somewhat homophobic (well he says stuff about finding homosexuality gross, but we hang out with a group of friends and sometimes a gay guy is there and he has no trouble talking to him or anything), and my bf also kind of has a low sex drive (well what i consider low anyway, it seems like i initiate more often than him, but mind you he's just shy in general as a personality trait, not just in bed)... so anyway not that i think he's gay (didnt really cross my mind till i read about your experience lol, well that and once apparently my mother told me that my sister in law called him a "faggot" (sorry i dont use that word myself personnally, just quoting the sis in law here, but she was drunk and can be mean like that) but what you describe about having been homophobe before admiting to being gay got me curious to hear more about your experience with your wife in that regards...

Cheers, keep up the good work, fluffy.

[Fluffer]

A friend and I were just discussing this stuff the other day! Here's our question:

Do gay men ever have sexual dreams that involve women?

[oberon]

Originally Posted by Fluffer

A friend and I were just discussing this stuff the other day! Here's our question:

Do gay men ever have sexual dreams that involve women?

I can't answer for all gay men, but I never do. I have on occasion- when I was much younger- had romantic dreams that involved women.

[cravin_2_suck]

i would like to know how can i maximise my pleasure while sucking my partners cock???

[DVDBear]

Originally Posted by Fluffer

A friend and I were just discussing this stuff the other day! Here's our question:

Do gay men ever have sexual dreams that involve women?

Hi everyone - I'm new to this forum. 52 yr old gay male -

Fluffer, I've had a few fantasies about sex with a woman, but they're very few and far between. Never actual dreams though. My fantasies are very specific and genital oriented, so I doubt that I'd find the actual act very arousing. I also will probably never do it.

[sexybigothchick]

What's with the gay-straight erotica? why would a gay guy want sex with a non-gay male, I mean, If they don't find you attractive, how would that be satisfying?
(for some reason I read a lot of gay erotica, and that just keeps coming up)

[DVDBear]

Originally Posted by sexybigothchick

What's with the gay-straight erotica? why would a gay guy want sex with a non-gay male, I mean, If they don't find you attractive, how would that be satisfying?
(for some reason I read a lot of gay erotica, and that just keeps coming up)

It's probably more of a fantasy porn thing, butI guess some gay guys would enjoy the "challenge" of seeing if they can get a straight guy to have sex. Maybe some think that a straight guy is more masculine (although personally I think that's a load of crap - it's entirely based on the individual). I have no interest in having sex with a "straight" guy . . . I think they're much more likely to have "issues" about the sex and who knows how they'd react after the fact. And as you said, unless I know the guy finds me attractive I doubt I'd have much fun anyway.