ok, so after i've sat here and talked to a couple of my friends, i actually think my guy was hitting my cervix.
it didn't hurt when he entered me. but after he got about, half way or so, it was a sharp pain.
i thought that it was probably my hymen being stretched and trying to tear but yea, after talking to one of my friends, she said it was probably my cervix and that's what's causing the bleeding.
so now i have sort of another stupid question.
i know fingering helps stretch the hole so it's less painful, but like i said, it didn't hurt when he entered me. so my question is, would something like going deep stretch it enough so that he wouldn't always hit my cervix and cause it to bleed or am i just doomed to have a shallow canal forever?
or is it really just my hymen stretching and trying to break?
please try to ignore my stupidity...i'm just trying to get some answers. i'm currently in my "confused" state of having sex for the first time.
Hey Jamie,
I agree with you. However, my point about other countries is that going to a specialist can be very costly when you don't have basic medical care or if you have good coverage but it will show up on your parents bill.
And like I said before, it doesn't necessarily have to be a gynecologist if nothing is wrong persay. Often the family physician will do the initial check up and then refer you if needs be.
Well, then thats their problem, its time to book your own appointment, and go. Who cares what your parents think on that, you are an adult, and you possibly want it done just for health reasons, to make sure your fine, and even if you haven't become sexually active you shoul dhave ""checkups"" so it helps prevent problems in the future... i duno i say.. "F**K your parents, go for you" who cares if they know. they would find out eventually, and no you don't have to tell them the specifics if you DONT WANT TO.
Jamie
you're funny.
i can't go to the walmart down the street without one of them going with me. lol.
Hmm, alright question.... if your that old? who cares... its your choice you are an ADULT. but alsooooo You could maybe book your own appointment and just go by yourself... just belike "hay mom im goin to the mall" lol and go to the doctors..
Jamie
i live in america and am covered by my parents insurance so yea, gotta go through their doctors and stuff.
my other issue, if i actually managed to talk to her about it, would be getting her out of the room when i'm in there with the doctor. she's just like my grandmother (who was her mom) and tries to nosey her way into everything, epsecially in places where she doesn't belong.
Hmm, he's the idea what to tell your mom about gyno. Tell her "Well, mom, you know I'm 22, and most girls should have had their first visit to the gyno then they are 18, so maybe it could be a good idea for me to make and appointment" Good luck
well we tried standard first and weren't succeeding. the sharp pain is what stopped us.
so after we played around a bit more he went in from behind so it could have been my cervix..i really dunno.
i would've never thought it was my cervix till my friend brought it up. she mentioned how sometimes her husband hits hers and it bleeds when he does that so that's why i'm thinking that.
but the reason i didn't really think it was my hymen is cause when i was younger, i was pretty active. i horsed around a lot with my brother and his friends in sports and i did a lot of other thigns like ride my bike, skate, just..lots of things in general...so i figure it broke a long time ago. and like i said, he had no problem entering me and i know the hymen is towards the end so yea, that's why i think it wasn't that.
he's not thick...or what i would consider thick. (not that i have anything to go by) but i would say he's atleast average...which is 6...but i'd say he was about 7 in length maybe. he says he's an 8 but we all know guys exaggerate. lol.
me on the other hand...well... i'm fairly petite. i'm only 5'2" (with sneakers on. lol). i weigh less than 100 lbs and i've always always been on the skinny small side.
i bled a little bit this morning again when i went to the bathroom..which i wasn't expecting but dealt with. i just came off my period so that also might have something to do with it.
i know i'm gonna bleed atleast the first few times and will wind up being sore for a while (i'm still kinda tender down there) so ya know, the bleeding part really isn't any of a concern for me. it would be if i was like gushing blood but i'm not. it came and went yesterday for a few hours then stopped and it just bled a little when i got up this morning...so yea..nothing to get myself worked up over..just yet atleast.
i just...i dunno. i guess i just really want to know if he was actually trying to break my hymen or it was something like my cervix and i happen to have a short canal.
i could probably have these answered if i went to the gyno but i don't exactly know how to bring that up to my mom (not the sex part just the gyno part). i'm 22, fixing to be 23, and i've never been and i know it's something i should do...but talking about stuff like that in my family has never ever been something we do. heck, talking about anything is not something we do. and i'm afraid that if i brought it up, she'd want to know why i wanted to go and lead her to believe that i'm sexually active now. and that would bring up curiousity as to who, and that's something me and my partner do not want to discuss with each others which is a whole other story within itself.
but anyways, thanks for your answers guys.
i do appreciate it.
You need to figure out exactly there it hurt. What it could be was the same thing as my bf and I have, is that about hal way it feels tighter for me then he first enters, and a first few times it hurt more. Some guys have their thinkest part not the head but somewhere around halfway, that could be the problem. And you probably strted to bleed because of your hymen breaking. And yes, fingering can make you a bit less tight, but fingers usually aren't as think as a guy's penis, unless he's an exeption like my ex
And I really don't think that you're being stupid. Then you first start out, it is pretty confusing. And btw, you can bleed and get pretty sore first few times. Just take your time, plenty of foreplay, maybe have some lube on hand, and be the one in control, after it, you might want to put some soothing cream on, I used Vagesil, that could help. Good luck
[QUOTE=Quote ]it didn't hurt when he entered me. but after he got about, half way or so, it was a sharp pain.
i thought that it was probably my hymen being stretched and trying to tear but yea, after talking to one of my friends, she said it was probably my cervix and that's what's causing the bleeding.[/QUOTE]
If he was only halfway in, then (unless his penis is gargantuan or your vagina is tiny) I don't think it would be your cervix. Like Naddy said, the cervix doesn't usually bleed. I'd say it's your hymen.
Hey Tease
I don't think you're stupid at all! All of these things can be very confusing and upsetting when they are new to you.
I don't really have much info on your back ground to even make any guesses, what I can offer is some tips and information.
A hymen is actually quite rare to find in virgin females these days as many young girls tear or lost their hymens between 10 and 12 years of age due to activity in sports and other such strenuous events.
If this is not you, the hymen theory is still a good possibility. Did it only happen the one time or is this a repeated event, the bleeding? If it is the hymen, bleeding should only happen for the first few times as the hymen is broken and then the area sheds and heals.
As for the cervix, it is possible that he is hitting the cervix, though the cervix is not usually prone to bleeding from sex unless the penetration is very deep. What position were you in? Often woman on top, and depending on the position of your uterus, doggy style can be very uncomfortable because of the deep penetration that often comes into contact with the cervix.
That's all I can offer for now, I hope that it helps.
Hey Tease....
Do you live in America or in Canada? Just curious. Usually in Canada you don't have a specific gyne unless you have problems and have been referred to a gynecologist. It is also covered by medical and so if you were uncomfortable there would be no need to get your mother involved.
However, if it is the American system, I know far less about that
Naddy