Hey all, Just found this board and have a question.
I was partnered for over 10 years. Separated last year and just started dating an awesome guy. Lots of chemistry. :D
I've had a thought in my head before that my hip movements are a bit weird when I am on the bottom. I do a lot of grinding movement. We were using a blender for something today, and I mentioned that I liked grinding--he said he knew and that he liked blending. (Not dissing grinding, just adding that he likes blending) And I don't think blending is my strong point. :o
Any tips or how-to places to help a girl out? I feel like this doesn't just come naturally for me...
You want to know how to use the blender? Huh?
hmmm, the blender talk was really sex talk.
as i said, i do a lot of grinding with my hips. he was saying that he likes a blending movement and i am looking for some advice on that. kind of like a primer because i don't feel like i totally get it.
i guess i want someone to spell out for me, when a woman is on bottom and a man on top, what is the relationship hip movement wise between the two? when "blending" or moving more in unison, what pattern are his and her hips doing?
does this make sense?
Gotcha! I think he means you rocking back and forth with your hips to met against his thrusting. I do not mean rocking side to side, it's more of a movement to get in sync with his. Sort of when you are on top of him going up and down, a man will get his own in & out movement going in unison.
You lost me before about using the blender! I was going to say just push the buttons!
I think you have to push some of his buttons! LOL.
I like it when a man pushes deep in me and holds it there, then slowly pulls out and slides back in, then I can get in the same motion with him. :) It's more of pulling your pelvis up to him ( a scooping type of movement) by tucking your butt in to get it going.
If all else fails, have him put his hands under your rump and get the movement going to show you what he wants. :)
oh thank you sera300. that helps.
one more question and i think i will get it!
when i do the pelvic scooping thing, what is the coordination with his movement? when he is pulling out am i going up? and then when he re-enters going down? or vice versa?
having his hands under my butt is a great idea. :D
It can be either, I find it more enjoyable when he is pushing more into you you are meeting him half way. Let him pull back and then when he is pushing back towards you then you slide into to him (then press hard against him).
Have him get his hands under your bottom and glide you the way he is talking about. As I said, It's about the same movement when you are on top (or in doggie style), sliding up and down him, most men generally get a rhythm going to help out so you don't have to go as far. Just do this in reverse when you are on the bottom!
thank you sera300. :) big help!
I find it difficult to move in the "doggy style". What movements work well from a females position?
In doggy style, you basically have to rock gently against him as he pushes into you, and when it really heats up, (as I have learnt from experience) you can both get a bit rougher with eachother. I love doggy because you can be quite forceful with it, even as the girl. You can slam your body back against him as fast and as hard as you want, there's no proper way to do it- just do whatever feels good!
Also with missionary, if you're a bit out of rhythm, try holding onto his arse and pulling him in and out of you- this way you can control the movement a bit more.