You'd better go to the Index and start reading the Articles.

Acquire a basic level of knowledge before you go into the arena, hun, so at least you have a clue about what you're dealing with and what you're in for.

She seems to me to have an idealized fantasy of you (or anyone) riding in on a white horse, etc.

> also she reffered me to this site

Good for her; although, I am wondering how much time she has spent familiarizing herself with the resources available. ** Had she, undoubtedly she would have run across this article listed in the Index:

HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

I recommend that the two of you read the article and discuss the information.

> has told me she's a virgin(and i believe her)

It is great that you take her word for this; yet, as you read the article, above, you'll learn that it doesn't much matter.

I also recommend that the two of you read the five articles under the heading: SEX e.g. INTERCOURSE and discuss the information contained in each.

I also agree with EEK, above, and recommend that the two of you read all of the articles listed on both pages of the Index, together or separately. Please talk about what you have learned from each and add the information to what you already know about life, love, and, sex. Knowledge is empowering.

> she wants me to have experiance she has told me she's a virgin(and i believe her) but she doesnt want me to be one for our first time.

From your description, it sounds to me like she is interested in sex for sex sake, not as an outward expression of any love she has for you. This is fine, if this is what each of you wants; although, if I was you, I'd be wondering why I want sex with her, just so you are on the same page so to speak.

My recommendation is to wait for several months, or longer. Why? Because while you both have gone thru puberty and have the ability to enjoy sex as well as to procreate, neither of you has the emotional and mental maturity to enjoy the intimacy of sex. I'm not saying this to belittle either of you--only to bring to your attention that the process of changing from a child into an adult does not begin and end with puberty. This is a decade-long process that won't be completed until sometime around a person's 21st year!

Question: Do you know if she masturbates and is enjoying orgasms regularly and consistently by her own fingers? Yes, or no, there is more to the question than either of you might know.
* first, girls often learn how to masturbate later in life than do boys--if at all
* second, inexperienced girls, often believe that their boyfriend will give them to her. WRONG.
* third, girls can and usually do enjoy making love whether or not an orgasm results
* fourth, each of us, male and female, is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away.
All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

What plans do the two of you have for birth control and self protection? Please read the articles and forum discussions that discuss contraceptives and their uses. If one or both of you expect to rely only upon a condom then you are tempting fate and Mother Nature. Women/girls in their teens and early twenties are the most apt to become pregnant, planned or unplanned. No form of contraception is guaranteed 100% and this is why several of us on this site recommend using three! Yours/Hers/Ours, the latter being a spermicide in addition to whatever other choice she makes.

What plans do the two of you have for dealing with an unplanned pregnancy, should one result? Having intercourse is an adult activity. If you wish to participate, then you also have to be adult about responsibilities and consequences. Unless and until you are ready to deal with these issues, then my recommendation is for the two of you to learn how to give the best foreplay {h/j &/or b/j) possible; besides, the resulting orgasms for you are generally much more intense! :cool:

So, tell me whatcha think about all this so far.
Please tell me what you think after reading the articles.

** Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. As noted, the Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Dear Shy,
your gf does not want you to experience your first time together? Wants you to get more experienced first? Are we actually talking about you getting yourself another girl to practice on first? Personally, I'm no guy, but I would have been so offended by this, I would walk away (even though I'm very patient). Come on! Not sharing a first time, because of lack of experience!? Than forget about it baby!

Or are we talking about you gathering some info? And perhaps working on some foreplay techniques (and so) on together? Doing sex bit-by-bit? If so, than personally: I would invite her to gather this info together. She's a virgin as well, her age does not matter. She's inexperienced as well and shouldn't rely on you to do all the work. Read the articles the doc is referring to. (and perhaps do some private practice after the reading ;))

Me an my boyfriend lost it to Eachother and I was suprised how good he was. He told me watching porn helped him. Haha(x

Then why, Miranda, your other post on the problems you are having?

[QUOTE=Brandye;257130]Then why, Miranda, your other post on the problems you are having?[/QUOTE]

These aren't experience problems it's just that i don't know what's normal or not with orgasims and why some positions hurt.

If some positions hurt go see a gynecologist and stop doing them.

Look, sex is supposed to be pleasing and fun so if it isn't: go find out why.
Do not just assume that it is you or your fault.