My boyfriend is a virgin, and I am not. We've been together for just over five months, and he has recently stated that he feels ready to lose his virginity. Generally speaking, I usually like to wait a little longer, maybe till six or eight months, not to mention that our relationship has been mildly rocky during the past month, so I've been more cautious about everything to help it stay together.
I don't want to have sex with him out of pity. Also if we do end up having sex, I want to make it special and memorable for him. I don't want his first time to be as bad as mine was.
If anyone has any suggestions or anything for me, I would really appreciate them. Thanks.
I believe you have a clear head and assessment about your relationship. I agree with you.
To what extent has your fooling around progressed to so far?
Work with him on the relationship and get the problems fixed, first.
I've given him blowjobs, and he's fingered me. That's about it...Wow...Yeah, that's it.
I don't mean to compare my relationships, but with my ex, we were together for more than a year before we had sex. To be honest I was a lot more comfortable with my ex at that point than I am with my ccurrent boyfriend at this point.
Supposing I think we should wait, what would be a good way to to let him down easy?
I think your rite to wait till your comfomfortable with him the, first time a couple has sex kinda sets the tone for the whole realtionship. What I would say is you both have to talk about it though because I'm in a similar situation with my g/f I'm not a virgin but I didnt want to rush into it but because I didnt talk about it I kinda gave her the impression that I dont want her. Sorry I'm talking about myself now, but wait till your ready you both have a say in the matter. What I would say though is dont try and build it into a massive deal and think that its going to be magnificent because everytime you get intimate you both will kinda be worrying about will it be good enough for the other. Hope my advice helps. Its helped me to know that people are in a similar situation to myself.
If you are not comfortable, then maybe it is time to assess the relationship and decide whether this is the guy you want to work on it with, or, leave behind as you continue to search for Mr. Right. Such is the nature of the dating game. Nobody should stop dating with the first warm body who expresses an interest. Date lots of people.
Thanks, you guys. It really helps.
Oh, uh...I forgot to mention, as of late, my libido has been unusually high, and I'm not getting any... So I want to have sex, but as I mentioned, I don't think either of us is really ready for it judging by how long we've been together and how far we've gone and how comfortable we are with eachother.