Well after years of searching and much time and energy wasted, i finally was able to bring my wife to the point of no return (kinda)..
Thanks to reading posts by Brandye and others, i was able to put those techniques to use..It worked!
but where one problem lies, another arose..
Quick history about our sexlife..
We've been together for many years and our sexlife has been simple and boring (to be frank)..It seems like sex is a hassle to her..She's a VERY busy woman with school and a full time job..So fitting sex into the schedule is last thing on her mind..
Now to the good stuff..After coming here and reading posts by many of you (thank you all) i was able to really push her buttons..Something ive always wanted to do before but she would NEVER let me..I always offered to go down on her but she refused(wouldnt even let me touch her down there)..Finally after long long talks i was able to get the chance..Well i know i did well cause i was getting kicked and scratched over and over..Anyone see the movie "TheExorcist"?
well that was her...It kinda freaked me out for a second..Her body would toss and turn and her muscles would tighten (which made my job ALOT harder)..It was great to see her over the edge for the first time..
so i figured everything would be great from here on out..
well after talking about it, she tells me she doesnt like feeling like that...She said it made her feel crazy, and that she was losing control of herself...Needless to say ive tried again only to get rushed into our same old routine..
i cant win...
all i want to do is please this woman but she wont let me!
suggestions??
Im 28 and she's 26..
and yes..id be willing to let her take control but i doubt that will ever happen..
Ill take your advice and give it time...
and yes...you hit the nail right on the head about her..
Thank you very much for the advice..
any women care to plug in some advice?
You've broken the ice. Be patient. I think the best is yet to come.
You didn't say how old you both were but you do talk about years together. One thing that's working in your favor is that women peak sexually in their 30's and 40's. I know from our experience that things didn't get really good for my wife until she hit her mid 30's. She always had orgasms but they were "little ones" in her teens and 20's. Now they're bed shakers.
You need to somehow get her to seperate her life out of the bedroom from her life in the bedroom. She sounds like a very "in control" person which probably serves her well at work and school. She likes the control. It works for her out in the world.
Do you tend to take control when you're in the bedroom? Would you be willing to turn it over to her?