Hello everyone, I am pretty new here and here is my situation...
I am with a girl and she is pretty innocent and new to the whole doing sexual stuff idea. Now I know my body very well, but she on the other hand does not. She says she has never had an orgasm..she thinks...which equals a definte no. Now I also semi new to all of this but have read up alot so I am familiar. We havnt gotten to oral yet, so I am fingering her. I really want to give her her first orgasm, and my question is what techniques or hints do you have that can help me give this to her? I have read all the fingering techniques and will try different things out because I know things must vary from girl to girl. But is there any hints or tips you have on giving her that orgasm? And when I do will I know?
Unfortunately, probably not, Fly.
First, it sounds like it's very early in your relationship, not to mention both of your levels of experience. If you read some of the threads on the topic of women's orgasm's you'll find that they are very different from men's... much more complex and often elusive.
Second, you can't "give" her an orgasm. Each of us is ultimately responsible for our own orgasms... of course in the ideal and mature relationships we are able to "help" our partner with his or her pleasure.
When you combine those two points and put it in plain language, a guy can cum readily from a mediocre hand job. A woman will probably not.
Third, I'd encourage you to learn quickly that sex is not about orgasming. "Read up" on relationships, love, communication; not only sexual technique, because sexual pleasure (and orgasms, especially for women) is about a lot more than what you touch and how you touch it.
It sounds like you and her are able to discuss things openly and that's a real positive. Your concern is good and your willingness to research is admirable.
Take your time and enjoy your journey.
can anyone help me out?