OK GUYS here is the deal! I have gotten the chance 2 have sex with a long term female friend of mine and the 1st time was a total dissaster! i was pleaseing her at 1st and all like sucking on her breast and caressing her vagina and stuff. But when it came time 4 me 2 "stick the turkey in the oven" i guess i just wasnt hard enough. 
im 19 by the way about 135 pounds (that might help u guys,help me better) OK and the second time we was all horny(and dawm it people this chick is so dawm HOT!!! she has 38d's and nice thick ass she weigh's about 140punds and shes 5"4) Anyways like iw as saying we where all horny i sucked her tits ate her out and when i was getting ready 2 hopefully Ram her! 
my penis was failing me yet again! I mean i did penetrate her a couple times but it wasnt like i wanted i wanted it 2 feel hard inside her and it dint, it felt like i was forcing him in and he really dint want 2 go in. He just wasnt obeying my command!(penis) So i blamed it on marijuana even thou i havent smoked any in about 2 months. I told her that this might be the problem but im sure its not. I think its me and I dont wanna be embarassed yet again when the next opportunity comes up!
SO Experts Help me please!!!! i need ur help! what can i do 2 please my woman!
Wed, 10/06/2004 - 06:54
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HELP!!!plEasE!!!
well if you are getting bored of foreplay, that could be your problem. there is no set time limit on foreplay and who wants how much.
some women need a lot of foreplay, others need like 2 minutes and they are ready to jump right in.
maybe try that next time, don't plan or take your time. time seems to kill your penis. just grab her, kiss her, bend her over and go for it. maybe the spontineity will work for you
i was just saying that 2 be funny. (ram,turky in oven, and the papi thing) but im actually very romantic. I am the kind of guy that will go that extra mile for my lady
and yes we do alot of foreplay way 2 much like 1 of foreplay she gets bored of it so do i i just need help on what i can do so that i can rock her world next time we get 2 do the "dirty"
Sounds like you are trying WAY TOO HARD! You're putting alot of pressure on yourself ...and it sure seems like you're ALL ABOUT THE PENETRATION!
Is she performing oral sex on you? Are you performing oral sex on her? Is she stroking your cock before penetration?
The fact that she is your 1st is probablly why you are experiencing this lack of hardness. It's called "performance anxiety" and it takes a bit of time to overcome.
But as i said above, you might want to spend a BIT more time on foreplay, a few less beers and a bit more intimacy.
SLOW DOWN!
[QUOTE=Quote (Rawbob @ Oct. 07 2004,06:12)]...and it sure seems like you're ALL ABOUT THE PENETRATION![/QUOTE]
I totally agree, especially w/ all your colorful word choices and play on words of "ram" her, and her to scream "give it to me papi" lol. sorry thats just too much. oh and the turkey thing.
None of that is either romantic or sexy. I enjoy some dirty talk as much as the next person, but there is a difference between dirty and just plain immature.
If your penis can get really hard during masturbation, but then falls soft during sex, its not your penis's fault...its yours. No magic pill will help that. It's more of a mental thing. Like Rawbob said, its performance anxiety that we all get whether its our first times in general or first times w/ a new partner.
Not into drugs, but you want a pill to make your dick work?
Hmmmm.
Do you see a pattern here?
[QUOTE=Quote (silentstoner @ Oct. 06 2004,16:10)]But my brain wants 2 Ram her and my penis dosnt[/QUOTE]
isn't usually the other way around? lol
well one can't work w/out the other. The brain controls the penis, contrary to what some might think lol.
PS. "stick" "poke" same thing
yeah its my 1st girl. Whome i have decided 2 take it further. and its "stick the turkey in the oven" Actually now that i think about it. From start 2 beggining i am calm and relaxed and know what i want and how 2 go about it ,but when i go 4 the "kill" i feel as if im not ready like im not horny enough or hard enough I guess. But my brain wants 2 Ram her and my penis dosnt so i guess im just not hard enough cause i no its not the size of my d i c k casue ive heard of dudes having lil 4 inchers and mines 6 inchez so it cant be that. Is there some safe pill i can take.Just teh fact of thinking about taking pills so i can get a rock solid hard on makes me sad. Im 2 young 2 mess with taht shitt but im thinking thats the only way
[QUOTE=Quote (silentstoner @ Oct. 06 2004,09:14)]So is there something i can take so when it comes time 4 me 2 f*** her i can make her moan and say "Yes yes! Give it 2 me papi" "harder" harder"[/QUOTE]
LOL
Hmm I don't even know what to say about that.
So is this girl your first experience? I think was what Wally was asking? Maybe the fact she is "so damn hott", its intimidating you w/out you even realizing it. Does this happen RIGHT AFTER you put the condom on? or just when you are about to penetrate?
Maybe your brain is telling you something that your penis doesn't want to hear, thats she's a good friend and to not poke your turkey in her oven lol.
its the second time and im actually kinda embarassed of it hapening again. I no that the 3rd time we get 2gether me and her are gonna be thinking of the last 2 times wich where a total dissaster. Also yeah i smoke weed from time 2 time and have a few beers at partys but its all under control. I used 2 smoke weed more when i was younger, but i hardly smoke now im just not in to it like i was before. And i only drink at partys plus i never get stupid drunk . So im sure its none of those things that are making me noy hard enough when im about 2 penetrate.So is there something i can take so when it comes time 4 me 2 f*** her i can make her moan and say "Yes yes! Give it 2 me papi" "harder" harder" I just want 2 be sure im pleasing her and myself. Because if my dick aint hard enough i aint pleasing her or me!!!!!!! and that sucks ass!
Hi:
The inablity to get and maintain an erection can usually be traced to a few key things:
-Alcohol
-Pot
-Drugs (extacy, etc)
-Excessive caffine (red bull, coca-cola, etc)
-Lack of sleep
-emotional issues (religion, famliy upbringing, etc)
-STRESS (this is a VERY common cause. The stress is sexual stress...being worried about being able to please your partner can cause you to not get and maintain an erection. Many guys drink or smoke or take drugs to relax and fight the stress...when in fact all it's done is made it even LESS Likely to get hard)
I'm assuming you are able to get hard and masturbate....that said.....and given your online name...are u being compeltly upfront about your drug/alchohol use?
First of all, this board is not made up of "experts." We're really just a bunch of people trying to be helpful... some have more experience... some have varied experience...
This is a tough question to answer for a lot of reasons. I'm not sure why you think body weight, etc. is a factor. I'm also uncertain why you seem to detach your penis from yourself and suspect that might suggest some of the "problem." But the important piece of missing information: is this your first time/have you had this problem before?