I am in need of a little help...
Me and my wife are having a little bit of a hard time in the bedroom. First off, we are still young and enjoy our time in bed togeather. Now we do have a child, she just turned 13 months and we only try to "get it on" when we have a "date nite" which is every other weekend or so.
Now, we are both not in the best of shape but hey, we both know that. This is what I am asking..
I have a feeling that she does not think she is that good looking anymore and/or has the engery for sex but still have the lust for it.. I mean, we both get off with the other one, im just tired of getting worked up and then having to go see "rosey and her sisters"!!!!
Is there a Positions that would help. We both as I said, are a little out of shape and I am not that, well, "gifted" in some areas....
Sex is more than penetration and what you have is fine - it worked didn't it? - so I recommend that you find, read and then do The Program found up towards the top of this section of this forum (it's a sticky post).
Great, glorious sex does not depend upon you and her being stunning examples of masculine and feminine pulchritude or every schoolkid's dream. Not at all. This kind of sex depends upon the wordless communication that thrills - sex at the cellular level - down to the bone. A look. A touch. A whisper. The sliding of skin upon skin. The ghosting of the fur. The incandescence in her eyes. The slow working up into full grand opera.
I often have that effect upon men.
Positions will make no difference; attitudes, on both your parts, will make an amazing difference. Evil gives good advice above. Remember troubled sex is as often a symptom of a deeper issue rather than being the problem itself. Thirteen months into parenthood is about time to have someone help you talk this through.
You say “I have a feeling that she does not think she is that good looking anymore” Well, there is a lot you can do about that. Look for opportunities to show and tell her how sexy and desirable she is. I am not talking about foreplay, but about everyday opportunities to touch her hair, to take her hand when you are walking, to whisper in her ear, just to notice what she is wearing. Repeat many times everyday.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;277500]Great, glorious sex does not depend upon you and her being stunning examples of masculine and feminine pulchritude or every schoolkid's dream. Not at all. This kind of sex depends upon the wordless communication that thrills - sex at the cellular level - down to the bone. A look. A touch. A whisper. The sliding of skin upon skin. The ghosting of the fur. The incandescence in her eyes. The slow working up into full grand opera.[/QUOTE]
Wow, EEK, that was quite the lyrical rhapsody! I agree, but your wording is quite wonderful--so much so, just reading the above got me hot...!
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sorry I didnt make this clearer to start with. We are, well, I am, trying to mainly find a position what would make both of us more relaxed and enjoy sex more. With our body types, most of the normal ones are a real pain in the back, or neck.
So far, I would say we have ruled out...
Missionary
Dogy
cowgirl
and any of the other types that branch off from the for named ones.. Also, both of us are not into anal, or me going down on her ( somthing to do with a bad memery in her past) and she only goes down on me once in a blue ball err..Moon, I mean MOON!!! :p
Blunt: It sounds as though you have each become quite corpulent.
The correction for this problem in sex, and in most of the rest of your lives, is simply to lose weight. You want the results without putting forth the effort to get there. That does not work.
My rants on obesity are spread around the Board and I shall not repeat. There is much more than good sex to be gained by trimming up.
You lay on your side facing her. She puts her butt up against your groin, draping her legs over your hips, lying on her back facing the ceiling.
What's so difficult?
You two not only need to drop the weight - walk, buddy, walk! - but also need to do some "practical geometry".
What I found worked for me. I bought variations and we read them together, and this lead to us talking about our fantasies and wow.
> So far, I would say we have ruled out...
Missionary
Dogy
cowgirl
> and any of the other types that branch off from the for named ones.
Have you looked at and investigated any of the positions found in the site's illustrated and animated positions section off the Home Page?
One position comes to mind. I refer to it as either the "X" or "Y" position, the difference being in the position of your legs. The two of you begin by reclining on your sides facing each other and then place your legs either outstretched or over each others'.