OK I ran across this site a while ago and read about The Program. Me and my fiance have been have great fun with it going 3 times a night regularly. The only issue is that sometimes it takes him a while to get it up for round 2. Sometimes he gets one really fast and other times it takes over an hour which is weird since he normally doesn't take long to be ready for round 3. The issue is sometimes it takes more then a few hours to go through the whole program a night if you can call that a problem:) It's just that sometimes we would like to get things moving a little faster if we need to get up early the next day.
Thanks in advance
You are dealing with fragile male reproductive system. It tires easily and can be unpredictable with other activities and issues in life. The first of the night is the strongest and it can leave various muscles quite tired. Hence the long refractory for round three. The second is usually gentler, with less volume and, hence, recovery can be shorter. It also tastes less strong than the first.
A break occasionally can work wonders with recovery time.
Brandye she is saying round 2 takes longer then round 3.
OP give him a break. I mean is it really necessary to go 3 times a night every night? Your going to have to expect some various changes. Take a day or two off. I sometimes wil go 6 or 7 times in the course of the night. Then there are days ill go 3 or 4 times in the same time span. Then the fateful 1 time a night and just can't get off. Its like Forest Gump said "$hit happens"
HYDRATION is the key. Make sure he drinks water and relaxes completely during the refractory period and take your breaks NOT in the bedroom. Understand that as he ages, the breaks will get longer.
Also recognise that no man is the sexual powerhouse that is woman - any woman. Nevertheless The Program is NOT a contest and no one should be keeping score. As the desire moves you both is the correct frequency.
BTW it is "My fiance and I" not the loutish "me and my fiance". You always put the other person first.
That is what I am addressing, Kitten, the first of the session is usually the largest shot - greatest force and largest volume - "taking the most out of him" and tiring the muscles involved. That increases readiness time for the second attempt. Subsequent ejaculations are lesseer in amount and force and do not require as much recovery - until he is satiated and it just will not work any more. Hydration is a good point; so is taking a day off. That is why, when people want pregnancy, we recommend alternate days.
Hello mr., Male Sexual Anhedonia usually refers to ejaculatory andehonia (no pleasure of orgasm), but can also refer to lack of sensation or pleasure during masturbation or intercourse. Whilst there are some physiological issues which can cause this condition it is most usually connected to a psychological or emotional issue
how does this relate to his refractory period?
Being in good physical condition, being mentally ready for rampant sex and staying well hydrated will all help his refractory period but the recovery time will lengthen as he ages. Being able, and this can be practiced, to orgasm without ejaculating will also improve his overall performance but will do nothing for his refractory period. In a pinch, even the most unassuming older male can do 5 erection/ejaculations in 45 minutes but he'll be useless for the next 24 hours or so. I've found that 'keeping him warm' between 'bouts' will help a trifle but there is a point at which there's nothing you can do.
Refractory periods vary from man to man and from day to day. Some men, especially young men, have a relatively short refractory period and your boyfriend seems to be one of those.
Sometimes being tired or not having had enough sleep can affect a man's ability to be up and able quickly for subsequent rounds. The most important things are to be in good health and to be sexually aroused. If you are doing the exact same things the exact same ways every time you have sex that could affect the arousal factor. Going through the same routine every time gets boring.
For the second round you could try concentrating on him, make it about him. Do things for and to him that turn him on. Sometimes a little foreplay works. In my case breasts rubbed in my face and/or fellatio always produce an erection if for some reason I don't have one. Find out what sort of sights or movements work for your boyfriend.
You could also try changing the location. Sex doesn't and shouldn't always be in the bed or even in the bedroom. variety of location, position and behavior is exciting. Don't have set parameters about how a long a session should last. Sometimes half an hour of foreplay is good sometimes a quickie with little or no foreplay is what's best. Sometimes you need something in between.
Another thing - sometimes people, be they male or female, don't want or need to have sex a couple of minutes after already doing it. I know this is hard to belive, especially in the case of men, but it's true. If for whatever reason he's not back up immediately don't push it. Do something else. Cuddle, carress, make out, go to the kitchen and make a sexy snack. Keep the romantic, sensual/sexual connection going. If he doesn't get another erection then get out of the house or hotel or wherever you are and try again later. Or not.
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