My friend is obsessed with dating sites, she split from her husband the end of last year and found these sites, I have nothing wrong with them as I found my bf on one lol, but i made sure it was a while of talking before we met.
My friend is taking risks I feel though as now she is on 4 sites talking to men every night and inviting them round to her house where she lives alone, i only just found out through a friend that one man she got with was quite aggressive with her but because he asked first she makes out its ok.
Im lost what to do as im worried about her but she just laughs it off as if its all ok, I know she is lonely really but somes things she is letting them do is so awful and degrading.
Do I tell her this though or support her?
Tell her. She may be angry, but it would be nothing compared to the guilt you would feel if you said nothing and something bad happened to her...She's being very stupid. Meeting a guy you barely talked to is questionable enough, but at least do it at a public place. Don't give him your home address! If she's so lonely she's willing to let strangers do awful and degrading things to her and be aggressive in her own home she really needs to see a therapist...
its really bad, this one chap put a pillow on her face and spat on her, she didnt tell me as she knew id go mad, a friend told me. I tell her she is being stupid but she laughs it off, half the time i dont even know she met them till after its happened
before the internet when people met at church, dances, clubs or other group organizations, picnics, dinner parties, etc.
There was a time that people actually waited until meeting to talk, or, communicated with each other on the old fashioned telephone--not a cellphone or text messaging! :rolleyes:
There once was a time when a girl and boy sat on the swing on the front porch and made plans.
I think your friend needs to go back to basics and simpler times and embrace that way of life.
If she does not want to change her ways, at least try and convince her to meet these "gentlemen" in a public place like a restaurant, first, before inviting any man into her home.
This woman must be desperate or starved for attention, and/or has low self esteem. I do not know of any right thinking woman that would let a (relatively unknown} man place a pillow over her face. Can you change her behavior? Probably not, although, you can tell her how unsafe all this is and that you care for her well being and safety. Beyond this, there is not much you can do. It comes down to her thinking more of herself than she probably does right now.
i dont think i can change her, she is very stubborn, as i say i met my bf on net but we talked on phone and webcam before we met then met in public place. i could tell her but if she is seeing them when i dont even have a clue. I dont want to have a go at her but she is being stupid, as i said i was on one of these sites and 90% are weird and just in for sex.
I suppose this is all you can tell her. If she is hell-bent on living dangerously, she has only to answer to herself; that said, if anything happens, it is her family and circle of friends who will pay.
Simply advise her to practice "safe sex" and this includes how she meets these men and proceeds from there.