I've just started a new relationship... my first real one so this is really the first time I'm having lots of sex with one person. It's also my first time communicating with someone about this stuff and my first not being afraid to try new things.
For some reason, i just can't get the woman on top position to work. I've tried cowgirl and reverse missionary and every time, he slips out a lot or gets soft and then we just end up switching to him being on top again. What am i doing wrong? am i supposed to be concentrating on moving up and down on him quickly, like in a bouncy way like in pornos, or is it more of a slow sliding, or what? Should he guild my movements? I don't get why i can't get this right and i'm getting frustrated that i can't enjoy this awesome position! Help!
He should tell you what he likes. You need to talk this out and find out what turns him on most about this position and make sure both of you are comfertable and enjoying it.
I always grind on top, as is my favorite. But I also 'bounce' sometimes.
I hope I helped alittle. Good luck ;)
I like it when my g/f doesnt move up and down so much but rather circles her hips around, if you understand what i mean. I find that when she is on top the more "aggresive" or faster it is the easier it is to slip out or get soft. So give that a try :)
i havent had much experience, but i love that position, but it does get a bit same-y after a while, but all i can say is do what feels right, in the moment
My wife will bounce very rarely as any bounce that is just slightly exuberant will result in him slipping out. She prefers to grind the hips in a circular manner or depending on how sensitive she is at the time a very hard slide backwards and forwards, i trust this is to maximize the friction on the clitoris. Pretty much forget about him and live out your desire...trust me, he will feel you enjoy it and it should please him more then any vision of how its done in porn that he may have.
no i know! i am so scared of woman on top... do you like, propel yourself up and down with your thighs, or like, move forward and backward with your pelvis?
im not really a woman on top kind of girl.. however, when i am on top.. i normally circle my hips with a slight up and down movement every few circles.. but all guys are different, ask him what he wants..
this is to help with the getting soft, not with the slipping out.
there is one particular thing that i've done for several guys that they all seem to like. they guy lies on his back while you stradle him with your knees on the bed, floor, or whatever. it is similar to cowgirl but insted you lean forward so that your breasts are touching his chest (this is key because as your breasts are rubbing against him it can be quite arousing) and your face is close to his so that you have the ability to kiss or nibble neck, ears, lips, etc., if desired. then you use a shallow penetration technique (where you do not fully insert him but rather pleasure his, and your, most sensitive spots by keeping the head of the penis close to your opening and going in and out only a little). this technique can be done quickly or slowly but should always be smooth with no popping. but be aware it does take a fair amount of physical control and should probably be taken slowly until you are experienced with it enough that he won't slip out of you. you can get tired quickly if you are not used to using the muscles involved, also. it is something that takes practice, but once mastered will be sure to send your man through the roof. ;)
i also suggest mixing it up a little though so that you do not just do this the entire time but also throw in some of the techniques of grinding and hip movement that others mentioned.
one nice thing about this position is that because you do not use very much force much you are less likely to "jam" his member (which is incredibly painful for him and really puts a damper on the whole experience). this, unfortunately, is much more likely to happen with the "bouncing".