I would have to say being open and honest is your best course of action here. It's best to discuss it when he's relaxed and feeling good (like after you've given him oral). Tell him how it pleases you that he enjoys your specail attentions in that area. And that you'd like to experience the same pleasure from him in that way. Then just outright ask him if he'd be willing to return the favor. If he says yes then great. But if he says no or is reluctant to the idea you'll have to dig deeper to find the source of the aversion. Maybe he's feeling intimidated or afraid he wont know how to please you. Or maybe someone told him when he was young that it was dirty. It could be any little silly thing, but it wont be silly to him. Just work it calmy, make no demands, and above all keep an open mind to where he's coming from. Hope I could help.
He isn't very good about following your hints so you should probably say something. I may be good to say you shaved your pubic hair and are bare so now when he gives you oral sex it will be better for him and you. And that you are anticipating how nice feeling his tongue on your labia and vagina is going to feel. If that doesn't kick start him, then maybe he is scared of giving oral to you or just doesn't like it. You may need to find someone who is willing to go down on you. That great you shaved yourself bare just for this.
Some guys just aren't into performing oral on a woman. Me personally, I can't relate. My s/o isn't into it as much as she used to be, but never turns me away when I want to DATY. She's good for 2 times, and after that sends me on my way. Sometimes just plain and simple "will u or won't u" is better than games.
Well, unforgiven, most women would be perfectly happy to not do oral on men but they manage to put the other's pleasure above their own dislikes at least periodically. Can't he do the same?
When me and my husband (then boyfriend) were younger (started dating at 13 or so) I was the one to initiate oral and what-not. He was a little intimidated to do anything, so that might be your boyfriend's case. It's important to talk about it. Ask if he's embarrassed, or afraid because men are sometimes reluctant to talk about things like that... especially if this would be his first time performing oral.
If you talk about it, and he still doesn't perform, then I agree with kitten... he gets what he gives. Nothing. ;) And then there could be a deep-rooted problem. Communication is so important, and that can't be stressed enough.
Maybe he is feeling queezy about the taste and smell. I would offer him a little alcohol to take the edge off then ask him to take a shower with you. Let him shave you and wash you. It may even seem cleaner to him if he would go down on you while in the shower. Then head to the bed. Go down on him for just a little while then say, "my turn" ;) . if he's not selfish, i think he'll want to do this for you. If he doesnt, then no more sucky for him. It goes both ways and if he is not willing to please you then he shouldnt be able to enjoy it either.
I would have to say being open and honest is your best course of action here. It's best to discuss it when he's relaxed and feeling good (like after you've given him oral). Tell him how it pleases you that he enjoys your specail attentions in that area. And that you'd like to experience the same pleasure from him in that way. Then just outright ask him if he'd be willing to return the favor. If he says yes then great. But if he says no or is reluctant to the idea you'll have to dig deeper to find the source of the aversion. Maybe he's feeling intimidated or afraid he wont know how to please you. Or maybe someone told him when he was young that it was dirty. It could be any little silly thing, but it wont be silly to him. Just work it calmy, make no demands, and above all keep an open mind to where he's coming from. Hope I could help.
He isn't very good about following your hints so you should probably say something. I may be good to say you shaved your pubic hair and are bare so now when he gives you oral sex it will be better for him and you. And that you are anticipating how nice feeling his tongue on your labia and vagina is going to feel. If that doesn't kick start him, then maybe he is scared of giving oral to you or just doesn't like it. You may need to find someone who is willing to go down on you. That great you shaved yourself bare just for this.
So you do oral on him and he doesn't give oral to you.
Okay stop doing oral on him.
Wait until he asks for it. Then say "you get what you give".
Yes, it may sound mean, but sometimes guys don't 'get it' until you make it very, very clear to them.
Some guys just aren't into performing oral on a woman. Me personally, I can't relate. My s/o isn't into it as much as she used to be, but never turns me away when I want to DATY. She's good for 2 times, and after that sends me on my way. Sometimes just plain and simple "will u or won't u" is better than games.
Well, unforgiven, most women would be perfectly happy to not do oral on men but they manage to put the other's pleasure above their own dislikes at least periodically. Can't he do the same?
Sounds familiar...
When me and my husband (then boyfriend) were younger (started dating at 13 or so) I was the one to initiate oral and what-not. He was a little intimidated to do anything, so that might be your boyfriend's case. It's important to talk about it. Ask if he's embarrassed, or afraid because men are sometimes reluctant to talk about things like that... especially if this would be his first time performing oral.
If you talk about it, and he still doesn't perform, then I agree with kitten... he gets what he gives. Nothing. ;) And then there could be a deep-rooted problem. Communication is so important, and that can't be stressed enough.
Maybe he is feeling queezy about the taste and smell. I would offer him a little alcohol to take the edge off then ask him to take a shower with you. Let him shave you and wash you. It may even seem cleaner to him if he would go down on you while in the shower. Then head to the bed. Go down on him for just a little while then say, "my turn" ;) . if he's not selfish, i think he'll want to do this for you. If he doesnt, then no more sucky for him. It goes both ways and if he is not willing to please you then he shouldnt be able to enjoy it either.
I just Love to do oral on a women, I find it so pleasurable to give pleasure. Plus I am into delayed satisfaction.
Rick