"This guy and I" - you always put the other person first.

Are you on BCPs? You had better be if you want sex. And he had better be using a condom. Because - if you want to indulge in adult play - you have to be adult about it. Take the responsibilities that go with sex seriously and be properly prepared.

After being prepared - if you want him, sure enjoy him. If you don't, then don't. It is your body and your sexuality - so it is your decision. You do not need our permission. You do not need to justify your decision or apologise for your sexuality or desire or lack thereof.

Also, I want to add that unless you want sex for the pure enjoyment of it, that you make sure you are on the same page for why do it. A lot of guys will say and do most anything in order to get a roll in the hay and their "rocks off". If you want more than this make sure he does too. Lastly, in addition to a contraceptive for you and a condom for him, add a spermicide for the two of you.

fallow your heart.

First, follow your common sense.

Heart? Hell, girl, that gets you diseased and/or pregnant. You are undoubtedly talking about a teen aged boy. Does he want sex? ALL teen boys want sex. Read "Am I Ready for Sex" and decide whether YOU want sex. There is still much for you to learn with your pants on.

Imagine yourself with your period three weeks overdue. Ready to tell mum?

> i know he wants sex but im not sure...what do yall think i should do.

I believe you should not place the proverbial cart before the proverbial horse-- meaning, jumping his bones before ever getting to know one another more intimately, first. This means spending more time talking and learning about each other's likes, dislikes, goals, ideals, whims, religious and moral values, etc.

It also means learning how to tease, tantalize, and turn each other on emotionally as well as physically. The way to do this is the ol' tried and true method of fooling around and making out--Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all before ever getting to the Foreplay stage, or intercourse if this is on the agenda.

In other words: take it slowly, progressing in small yet progressive steps of ever increasing intimacy. If your boyfriend is young and inexperienced, he probably has no clue about the importance of arousing you sufficiently before going straight for the pleasure of (his) climax. Keep in mind, guys will say and do most anything to try and get you to do one thing or another that results in their climax. Please take the time to learn whether or not he is also genuinely interested in your needs. You won't necessarily learn this from his words, look at his deeds.

Do not be in any rush to have intercourse. Spend time (weeks/months) at the Foreplay stage. Learn to help each other climax from a h/j and/or b/j--or both! before moving on. Understand that orgasms resulting from the above actions will provide more intense results, especially for men, so there is often no reason to engage in intercourse other than curiosity and status.

Have the two of you read the articles listed in the Index? I recommend that the two of you read each and every one, discuss the information after each article, then add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering. Knowing more will make sex safer and also more enjoyable, regardless of how far you go.

If you determine that all this fella really wants is for you to help him get is rocks off, then think again.
If you want to have sex as a way of hanging onto this fella, or hoping he will like you more, then think again.

Frankly, if you're asking someone else whether or not you're ready, you're not.