If you feel uncomfortable, then do NOT do it. No one, man or woman, should ever be pressured to peform something they do not want to do.

Instead try this:

begin with the usual massage then when she's all relaxed begin applying more pressure ALONG the LONG bones - very slowly - as if you were trying to stretch her out. Then slide into body worship while you're doing heavier and heavier pressure along her long bones (arms and legs). A bit of oral, then oral with manual and then slide yourself inside to finish off!

Using more of your masculine strength should substitute quite well for the more brutal techniques she's been thinking of. P. S. Stop watching porn - it is fake and try seeing what more you can do with regular sex.

You haven't been listening - increase the pressure until she says 'ouch' then back off a trifle and go for it as I have suggested - she'll not even want to move if you do it correctly and she will feel totally dominated while you will not feel uncomfortable doing it. Be all over her, put more of your weight onto her instead of your elbows or hands, hold one wrist tightly while doing something else with your mouth and other hand and penis, take up wrestling and pin her down.

I,m submissive and enjoy it rough a times. If your girfriend is asking you to try it then go for it. First let her establish a safe word and when she say's it stop. Let her call the shots, after all true love is not just about your pleasure but what she wants as well.

Okay - who's the domme, here?
In fact, the only men I dominate are dominants themselves who wish to explore the psycho-sexual realities of submission.
Yeah it is a mind**** of major proportions and that's where the good stuff happens! It is all in the nuances!

I had your same problem a while ago, except it was my boyfriend asking me to dominate him. I felt really awkward at first, but as time went along it became more comfortable. So give it a go, and always remember to have a safe word so you don't get wrapped up in the roleplay. ;)

This may be the time for a dancer to step in here. EEK is correct and her technique in the dance world is called "resistance". The way a leader leads and the way a follower follows is through "tone" in the upper body and arms. Match pressure. This is the key for what has been discussed above.

If she wants you to hold her down, fine, do it. You do not have to push her to hold her. Just place your hand(s) on her. If she resists, then match her pressure that you feel; therefore, if she is reclining and attempts to sit up or move about, she will be pushing against you. Simply match what ever force she is applying to change position and match it.

Keep in mind that if the two of you are going about your love making correctly, the activities are cooperative between the two of you. You do not have to physically push on her to hold her. She isn't going anywhere. If you do want to give the impression of holding her, then press your hands or body against her. It will only take a bit of pressure to give the illusion of force.

The same thing goes for spanking. You do not necessarily have to beat her up. Heaven forbid! Pull your punches so to speak. Give the illusion of force without actually applying any. You can spank her bottom and not hurt her.

Now, here's one for you. I remember the first time my wife held her legs together. I was amazed at how strong she was (or maybe how weak I was). We ended up all over the bed and I never could get her to spread them. I was getting really exasperated and worked up because she waited until I was desperate if you know what I mean. Her actions and my reactions turned her on even more and finally after quite awhile, she relented. I was ticked, she was grunting and huffing and puffing and all the while smiling and snickering at me as we struggled with each other, yet the finale was actually quite worth the effort involved. Now, this story is not about tying someone to the bed with the other person having his/her way, although, it does illustrate how the two of you can play off of each other without conventional restraints.

Two can play this game. If she wants your penis for whatever reason, to please you, to build her own ardor, or for intercourse, and you want to tease her, simply tuck your equipment between your legs and keep them tightly together. She'll go crazy attempting to get at "it".

If she has given you ideas of what she would like the two of you to do, give one or more a try, keeping in mind it is not what you do, rather, how you do it. It is the illusion--just like in the movies. People do not actually do battle, although you would certainly think so. Pulling punches, throwing punches that actually land a bit in front of a person who reacts as if he had been hit, and the creative use of camera angles, all make the action believable.

Here are a couple of cases to make a point.

A.) One of the best and most memorable movie scenes (for me) about domination was in a Dirty Harry movie in which Clint's character was tied and restrained to a straight-back wooden chair. The villainess had him restrained while she proceeded to have her way with him. As I recall, her taunting began with a lap dance. Harry did not want this to happen, was powerless to prevent the inevitable, and upset that he was obviously becoming physically aroused and not in control of the situation or his reactions. All this just makes the inevitable that much more intense in the long run.

B.) Probably everyone has played "hospital" or "nurse/doctor" at one time or another. Usually these scripts are a diversion to the norm, fun, and entertaining. For couples new to each other, the exam, portion can make it more comfortable for a shy person to bare all.

Take this a step further and tie her up and then give her the physical exam. Use a popsicle stick as a tongue depressor. If you happen to have a BP cuff, so much the better. If not--improvise. The same goes for a stethoscope.

Make the most out of a breast exam and get carried away with her genitals. Just make sure your safe word is in place. The intent is not to hurt or harm, just to provide an illusion of being out of control of the situation. Let her imagination provide the drama.

The same goes for you if you are the one being tied down to the bed. If you've read my Sticky articles that mention what women find important about a penis then you already know that to her your penis is a combination throttle and brake over which she wields "power" and controls your progress toward and timing of your climax--and, the next if it is her will.

In the article on Anal play, is a section on "playing ball" and how squeezing one or both is not ordinarily painful, yet will cause an annoying little ache. Well, if you happen to be the one being dominated, she can judiciously carry this a bit further, not to cause more discomfort, only to make it last longer. Later, when you are about to climax, she can reapply that same pressure and you should experience a much more intense orgasm as explained in the article.

How you finger her vagina, tug on the labia and penetrate her with finger or dildo all make for good sport and play acting if the script matches the action and you both know that in the end no one will be hurt.

So, with all this out in the open, what has she suggested she would like the two of you to do?

7inches - try www.wickedwomangroup.us and just reverse the genders - you should find it useful.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;188063]Okay - who's the domme, here?
In fact, the only men I dominate are dominants themselves who wish to explore the psycho-sexual realities of submission.
Yeah it is a mind**** of major proportions and that's where the good stuff happens! It is all in the nuances![/QUOTE]

That is a great question, I have been with two Domme's and It really hard to tell who really is the Dom or Domme.

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Yes, it is quite interesting.

Yeah, I Know Exactly Where your Coming from, hell i Get Worried Just Pushing Her Up Against the Wall To hard. I know I'm Not helping, But Just know Your not Alone.

For some women....well ok for me....the wanting to be dominated thing is just about wanting him to show off his 'big strong man' side. I know that's corny and frankly I don't care. I LOVE his arms--he teases me that I think they're mine and that he should just tear one off and let me carry it with me every where I go.

But it's the expression of strength--the brute strength inside them and the personal strength inside him--that affects me so much. Even something as simple as rolling over to face me, putting his arm around my back, and rolling the two of us back together so he's on his back and I get lifted so I'm on top, will get my motor running. For him to put his strength to use pressing me into place on the bed, or keeping me from pulling away when it gets so intense, or whatever....yum.

I guess my point is you don't have to overthink it.

I love being held down and told im going to get it rough. My fiance doesn't understand that and does things like tie me up and stuff but its just not enough. Years ago, with a different partner i asked him to cut me during sex, and i realized after how bad that was. and even now i think i want it rough rough where i say stop but i want him to carry on but really i dont. so try it and you never know, she may just not like it after you doing it.
i find its also about the build up of it, so instead of having my fiance force it on me, he could enhance foreplay for a long time and tease so i really really want it and then just get passionate all of a sudden. catch her off guard. its about feeling wanted so bad, the bloke has to grab you and have you there and then.

oh and we're not as fragile as u think, the best sex leaves you dirty, sweaty, tired etc.