Ok. I have been with the same guy for almost two years and ive spent most of it on my back. I need help because I want to be able to get back on top, but it hurts me. Im really not confident with being on top because I feel like im not pleasuring him. Please give me any tips for making me more physically comfortable and able to ride him longer and harder. I want to make him lose control. :)
Mon, 10/10/2011 - 21:04
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Help!! Problem with being on top!
Check out the sex positions guide,you may find some that you are interested in and suit your needs.There are quite a few women superior ones,and you can control the depth.I too was very uncomfortable being on top as I didn't have much confidence in myself and was afraid that I wouldn't please my man.But he encouraged me and I love it now and so does he.Being on top is the only position where men and womens parts align and we can have some control and rest assured you will please your man.They love us to take the lead sometimes as it takes the pressure off them and they can enjoy the ride.Just remember RELAX and ENJOY yourself.
With him lying on his back, straddle his hips on your knees, adjust the fit until you are comfy by moving up or back as needed, condom and lube him up, lean forward and manuveur his penis into your vagina, sit back up, wriggle a bit until the head of his penis is in the area of your posterior fornix, then uising your knees as a fulcrum move up and foward (move from your hips, dear) then down and back - just as you would do when posting at the trot when riding a horse using an English saddle - repeat, repeat, repeat, using the bounce of the bedsprings to help sustain the motion.
The real trick here is to find a bed or other surface with just the right amount of 'bounce' to it - not too hard and not too soft.
For 'bonus points' add a bit of twist by moving one hip first while rising up and relaxing down, switching hips as you repeat, repeat, repeat.
And nevermind about pleasing him - the sight of you using him, abusing him, getting all sweaty, glowing, turning pink with pleasure and singing your song of rapture will DRIVE HIM WILD! And if you ejaculate all over his hips - he will follow you to the ends of the earth forevermore.
Just listen to the men who reply after this post.
It is important to realize that the man's only job is to provide the erection. If you want to you can have him steady you with his hands -- or you could require him to keep his hands behind his back.
You use your hips and thighs to provide all the motion and this means that you adjust your position so that it works best for you -- don't worry about him, he is supposed to keep still unless told otherwise. Some women like to sit very straight, others lean forward on their arms.
As EEK said, when women take control, men loose it!
Being on top is a great position for both you. Get comfortable, don't worry about what you look like. If you feel good he will feel good. Men love it when their woman has an orgasm by "using" his body.
Good luck! Check out the positions on this site and then have fun...