Hey everyone, well I'm a 17 year old male whose been sexually active since around 14...I get tested regularly and have been with a number of diffrent girls. When I first started having sex I would bust relativly fast like 10-15 minutes, not even going fast or hard. Over the years though I suppose your sensitivity level down there gain more stamina, well on average I take around an hour to cum. My girlfriend still has a great time and I'm glad for her, but lately due to certain circumstances we have to speed our sex life up a bit. We usually have under an hour to have sex on a regular basis...so I usually and up not busting and going home with blue balls, and that well...just sucks...and she feels as if she hasnt occomplished anything, she still orgasms and what not but in the end shes like "Dammit I didnt make you bust!!!", its not as if shes doing a bad job, shes great...it just takes a long time no matter what were doing, we had times with a large amount of variety switching from oral to intercoarse to anything inbetween. She even gave me head for 45 minutes straight lol, and I loved it but the case is if I dont hit that hour mark I just dont bust and I really hate it. A couple of years ago I always wanted this but now its almost like a burden to have high stamina, especially when you just dont have all the time in the world...any advice would be appriciated, from anyone, professionals, people in similar situations etc. Thank you guys/girls....peace...
Tue, 07/11/2006 - 23:30
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Help please...
oh hell yea, foreplay is the highlight of any sexual encounter for me, lol we were laying in bed and talking about past sexual relationships we had and she was saying how an ex of hers would just get right to it after making out and she would hate it because she hardly even got wet enough, but we appriciate our foreplay and love it...:), but thanks ill take ur advise for next time and post when i see the results...
lol wut, that aint normal man, that is not normal, im thinking you aint into her. Maybe you're gay. Nothing is being wrong with that man its 2006, its cool.
Oh come on! Gay? I don't think so. If you've been sexually active on a regular basis for 3 years now? You may have built up a resistance which most guys need!!! Like the person above me said, you may not be as into her as you thought or maybe she can't please you because she doesn't know what makes you come. Tell her which spots to hit or suck or lick whatever. The guy I'm with now... me and him didn't know what the other wanted and I'm a pretty shy person so talking about it is embarrassing to me but honestly communication is key. If things don't work out with the "busting" try breaking it off and having sex with someone new (or if she's into it a threesome) just don't rush anything especially sex. Oh another thing.. foreplay is not taking eachothers clothes off and making out.... oral, finger and hand stimulation, rub downs etc... do at least 40 min of that before hand... if you don't have time... make time... I was able to rent out a hotel room when I was 17... depends where ya go though. Best of luck!
lol i'm pretty sure im not gay, but thanks for the advice lol, i suppose we should just communicate better, i mean i definitly into her though...i get a hard on whenever i catch myself checkin her out fer more then 10 seconds, and were both huge on foreplay in my opinion its the most fun...and this is never a problem when we do have the time its actually so much better cuz i last so hard, then when i do cum i get hard again in a mtter of seconds and then its round two or three, but thats is usually when we have a A LOT of time..im pretty sure its just me, i would just like to find some way to kinda will myself to bust so i dont have to take as long when we dont have the time, if that is at all possible....
Try masturbating before hand and try to get yourself close then have sex... if you don't lose the build-up you should be able to come sooner.
By the way its great to hear your into foreplay... too many guys are too stupid to figure out what it is or are too into getting themselves off that they don't seem to care about it.
Ok let me know how it works out. ;) have fun!