Ok im a virgin and young and i have had this friend named Andrea for 4 years. Well we joke aobut having sex all the time and Yesterday iw as over and shes like LETS GO UNDER THE COVERS! so we did and we made it dark and i couldnt see her and i was so ready to do it. I put my leg across by her ya and was rubbing against her and then she put her hand on my leg and rubbed my arm and i was getting really hard and then she giggled cause she could tel and then i siad i want to and she said ok and then she kept sayin naw and all this! WTF! i was like ok well then get out of the covers your acting like a tease and she was like if you hadnt said that i woulda ****ed ya! and she says that all the time. she is a virgin too and she says she is scared.Im not interested in a relationship with her i odnt want one but i want to have sex with her so bad. i want to be her first. what can i do to relax her and get her to do it?
+++Jared+++
if you guys are young, and you don't want to have a relationship with her, then don't try to have sex with her. i would suggest you just try to get her to stop teasing you, but don't try to get her to actually do anything.
Well i mean i really want to!
she does too i know she does.
she is afraid it will hurt her.
Also she is not happy with ehr
body and thats mostly it.
i think her knowing the size
of mine too she is VERY afraid
Before doing the deed, I think it would be best to want a relationship with each other. Because the first time you have sex won't be the best, and it'll leave you cold and empty if you have sex the first time... Just to have sex. You've been warned. LoL
this may sound wrong but...i just
REALLY want to have sex with her and all.
Not attractive much but dayum
i want to have my way whith her.
she sadi ok and we were under the
cover and i unzipped my pants and said
take em down adn she said ur arnt
unzipped i dont belive it
i just think you want me too then you
can tell everyone i wanted to have it
with you! i was like umm no there down!
i really want to badly. i just hope she
will...i dont care who it is...nowadays
its like oh its a girl wanting sex
so ill do it no matter what! lol
Yeah... I felt the same way.
I think unless you really are attracted to this girl in more than one way... you REALLY shouldn't let this be your first time.
Its just your hormones talking.
I agree with JJ. It's simply your hormones talking. You might think she wants to have sex with you but you can't be positive until you ask her. Talk about it. Understand each others feelings on the issue. It helps a lot. And then maybe she'll decide that she'd like to have no strings attached sex with you as you want to with her.
also you have to understand that this is a BIG step for both of you sex will aways complicate things, even with the "no strings attacted" can lead you to a place that you may not want to be. until both of you can communicate with each other about what sex means to you then you are not ready to have sex. if you want her first to be special then you have to love her, and you have to be there for her as she stresses over the fact that she lost her virginity (yeah it's stressful the first time). let this chance go by and wait for someone special.
i still just say DON'T DO IT. you will both regret it.
i just really dont think i would...what
is there to regret.? its just sex. I mean
it is like maturbating but with a girl!
[QUOTE=DesolateSoul]i just really dont think i would...what
is there to regret.? its just sex. I mean
it is like maturbating but with a girl![/QUOTE]
LOL ok
well it might mean that little to you... but it would probably mean a lot more to her.
I mean if its nothing special and just "masturbating" then why do you REALLY REALLY want to have sex w/ her?
listen there is this thing i like to call "virginitis" it's basicly when a girl becomes clingy and obsessive to the man she lost her virginity to, have you seen wedding crashers? there is a perfect example of "virginitis" not all girls have it but do you really want to take the chance of a girl becoming clingy to you? can you honestly live with yourself after breaking that girls heart when dump her the next day (or tell her that she is only sex to you). if you can't handle that then you shouldn't have sex.
I suggest you not to it at all because you "just want to have sex." That's quite like using her, even if she is your "friend." Find someone you really want to have a relationship with and when the right time comes, the right time will come and then do it. It will be much more enjoyable then as well. And as you said, you're young, so WAIT a while. Don't go out and do all of this stuff just because you're learning about it, that's stupid.
her first is something shes going to remember.
i think she may want some sort of relationship.
also, if she says no i think you should respect her.
don't make her do something she doesn't want to.