Hey all out there
I am a 16 year old female wanting to lose my virginity with someone older then me. I don't really know when I want to lose it with him but I know I do. Is there anything that I should be careful or worried about? I know that it sounds stupid and don't judge me but I have always liked older men and I always will. I have told him that I want him to take my virginity and he was cool with it. But I am iffy about it because I was ALMOST! raped three times once when I was 5, then 10 and just about 6 months ago. I told him about it and he said he would be very careful not to bring back any bad memories. Can someone please help me? I dont know what to do anymore and I can't tell my parents. One because they are my parents duh and Two. Because they don't know that I like older guys. Help please I am willing to hear anything from anybody, I just need answers. Oh yeah and the guy I want to lose my virginity with is 10" long and 2 1/2" thick, Is that to big for the first time? Will it cause more pain?
Thanks for the help
Katy
Katy,
***If it happens with this guy, and your parents find out, I think he can go to jail because you're not old enough by law to consent to sex. I bold I think, because I'm not certain what the law states as age of consent, but both you and he better check that out.
***How old do you mean by older?
***With the number of times you state you have been attacked, if you haven't already it might be a good idea to get some counseling to be sure you're coping okay with all the stuff that goes along with that kind of thing. Also be aware that he might trigger that kind of stuff without either of you knowing it could/would trigger anything.
The last thing I'm going to say is, you have PLENTY of time, don't rush this.
When you got to the measurements, the game was up. I suggest that you do some homework on protection against pregnancy and STDs and await the time. It will come but you need not fantasize about the unreal.