I've had this problem too.
Until I read this.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/20641-intercourse_orgasms_the_ge...

If you're like me, you engaged in intercourse too fast and need more foreplay.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, Barbara. I hope you enjoy participating.

It seems to me from your description that you are squatting over your partner, is this the case? If so, there is nothing wrong with this, although, as you have discovered, it may be something you want to do less of--meaning not doing it for too long a period of time.

Here is something you can try instead. Instead of squatting, try kneeling. This gives you the option of remaining upright, resting on your hands, or, forearms lower down on or just above him using your arms.

More variations can be found on the sites main section:
http://sexinfo101.com/sp_womanontop.shtml

I hope you find this helpful.

lean forward and rock. Bouncing up and down would wear out a gymnast!

It is great for toning your muscles, but if you are quite a bit shorter than him or he has a bigger build (or buddha belly...) it can make you work quite a bit harder. Reverse cowgirl is great as you get to lean forward towards the thinner part of his body so there is less pressure on your legs and you can put your hands onto something for support. If he likes you on top and you prefer it, make sure you are both really turned on before getting up, or incorporate it into your routine instead of it being the only position.

Switch to being on top when he's very close to climaxing.

If it doesn't last too long you won't get too sore, right?

Brandye has it best...lean forward and rock. You can but your arms above his shoulders, or if he likes a bit of domination, pin his wrists above his head when your leaning forward. it gives you just a bit sturdier handhold.

[QUOTE=barbara512;197475]i like having sex but when it comes to my turn of being on top i get self concious! and then when i am on top and feeling it my legs start to hurt. [/QUOTE]

Does the fact that you get tired make you self-conscious, because you make it sounds as if is simply being on top is what makes you self-conscious. If so, then I have always found that I tire more quickly in positions that I'm not comfortable in.

Here's a trick that we horse people learn when we're cantering. If you want to keep a smooth connection between your seat and the saddle at canter, it's in the hips. Keeping your shoulders upright, push your hips forward, slightly up, and then back, then forward again. It almost forms a backwards triangle. But remember, you're moving your hips, not your entire torso- your shoulders and chest stay stationary. When you get used to this, you can incorporate side-to-side hip movement as well. Spice it up with a little bit of the bouncing up and down if you want. You can put one hand behind you, lean back, really push your hips forward, and play with his balls with your other hand. You have lots of options... but remember to elevate your chest and shoulders and rock from the hip.

And since guys like visuals... well, the men here will have to tell me what they think, but since the motion is coming from your hips, it's quite comfortable to pull your shoulders back, arch your back, and give the guys a great view of two firm breasts.

(Also makes your stomach look smaller because you've got it taut, which is a confidence-booster bonus for us! ;) )

Men being men - they'll generally enjoy whatever you choose to do with them. But yes, the motion is just what you do when riding a horse; use your knees as a fulcrum and moving through the hips. This idea of standing on your feet and squatting is silly. Instead of being self-concious think of it as YOU pouncing upon HIM and YOU having YOUR way with HIM. Men tend not to mind an enthusiastic sex partner! *EG*