Ok, so I know I'm going to catch flak for this on here but my grilfriend and I make love without using a condom. I pull out, she's on the pill and I avoid sex during her ovulation.
Our problem is, tonight her mom talked to her about her needing to remember to take her pill, which I dont think she's taken since her period ended. She's worried because we recently had sex and her mom mentioned "she could get pregnant if she's having sex". Well that didnt sit too well with her and I spent all evening holding her in her room telling her it'd be alright (but her being worried was getting me worried too).
Here's the facts. Her period ended about 3-4 days ago. We had sex 2 days ago. I pulled out.
I've been reading and it seems to me, pregnancy isnt even possible at this stage of the menstration cycle and isn't until around ovulation. Am I wrong? Could she get pregnant at that stage? Thanks alot to anyone who can answer my questions.
Oh...and we're probably going to start using condoms.
She's not pregnant.
I truly appreciate the people who gave me words of hope. Even though no one really answered my questions but thats fine. Just that "nothing is 100%". Got it. I didn't expect much more from here.
No. She's never been pregnant before. Like I said in my other post, it was all mental.
Yes. We're going to start using condoms and she is going to be more careful with her birth control pills.
Thanks though. Kind of?
No method of birth control is 100% safe. Even if the pill is used properly, there is a chance you could get her pregnant.
Sperm can stay alive inside her for several days, so even if it is a "safe" time of the month, it is not really safe for sure.
Lastly, it is possible to get her pregnant without ejaculating. Your penis leaks pre-cum fluid before ejaculation, which contains sperm. This means that pulling out is not guaranteed protection.
Still, I think it will be a tense month for your gf.
Yeah, I read in the "Rhythm" section of this website that a sperm can live up to 3 days inside the female body.
I wasnt saying that I thought our method was fool proof. Just saying, I pulled out (which I know, doesnt help with the clear fluid), she is on the pill (which she HAS forgotten to take for the last 4 days) and it was 2 days after her period ended. We had sex once about a week before her period. I know that thats a very fertile time so up until she had her period, I was really nervous.
all i can say is spend the money to get the condoms... it's worth it and will stop alot of hassles in the long run (use condoms with her pill and its a big birth control boost)
Should stop alot of this sort of worrying and you wont necessarily have to time/plan when you have intercoarse. you can have it when the mood is set. etc
I know. I intend to. Im just worried that the feeling will be gone. But it'd be worth it to not have this worry cloud over our heads.
Can someone please elaborate on our current situation though? Like, if it's probable that she's pregnant or not? I think it's nearly impossible for her to get pregnant right now if I've read things correctly. Where's that doctor guy? I bet he'd be some help.
I think you need to reassure your gilfriend that no matter what, you're going to be there. Whether or not she's pregnant, and no matter what she decides. When she knows this, she may calm down alittle. It's important for her to know this.
It's very possible that she's pregnant, but likely you wont know until her next period or unless she takes a pregnancy test. If she isnt sure how to do it, or for any other reason doesnt want to take an at home test, her doctor can give her one free of charge (Im sure).
Get her to take the test, if she's pregnant, the sooner you know, the better.
Have the two of you thought about what colours the baby's room will be??...
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;152551]Have the two of you thought about what colours the baby's room will be??...[/QUOTE]
Dont be a tightass. The guy and his girl are obviously worried.
Dude, I think youll be fine. People struggle to get pregnant when they try, even with a "full load" of cum, and there were only a handful or precum sperm released, if any, so I think youll be fine.
Thank you. I just think we'll be ok because we're practicing withdrawl, the pill and the ryhthm method. I know what the worst case scenario is. And yes, she knows I'll be there for her no matter what. I love her with all of my heart. We just aren't ready for a baby. She's saying she just wants to wait until she is supposed get her period again before she gets a test, which I don't really understand.
[QUOTE=Marko;152556]Dont be a tightass. The guy and his girl are obviously worried.
Dude, I think youll be fine. People struggle to get pregnant when they try, even with a "full load" of cum, and there were only a handful or precum sperm released, if any, so I think youll be fine.[/QUOTE]
The point is they "deserve" to be worried and should be worried. If you can't remember a pill or use a rubber or get educated about what causes pregnancies... you give up the right to relax. (BTW, I also don't understand her unwillingness to get tested... sticking one's head in the sand is not a hallmark of responsible behavior.)
Speaking of responsible behavior, providing false assurances without any basis is a bit irresponsible. Perhaps you are willing to support the child they may have?
[QUOTE=Marko;152556]Dont be a tightass. The guy and his girl are obviously worried.
Dude, I think youll be fine. People struggle to get pregnant when they try, even with a "full load" of cum, and there were only a handful or precum sperm released, if any, so I think youll be fine.[/QUOTE]
ROFLMAO....out of the mouth of babes..:rolleyes:
Ok, and let me add this. My girlfriend doesn't "think she's pregnant" because of physical feelings. Its all mental. Her mom just said, since she forgot to take her pill 2 days that, "if she's having sex, she could get pregnant".
Im just really wanting someone to respond to my thoughts on ovulation. Am I right in those thoughts? Please, if I am uneducated, educate me.
I'm pretty sure she's getting a test tonight. I'll let you all know.
ok. with the ovulation yes there is only a short space of about 5 week in the month in which she can get pregnant and this is usually in the middle of her cycle. (usually 14 days into the cycle though it varies from person to person)
having said that semen can stay in a women for up to about 3 days. so even if it is like just after her period or 1 week after her period it can carry over and if she starts ovulating, her body will indeed use this sperm to form with the egg.
Though in your case it would be quite hard i see to get her pregnant though it is not definite and still could happen.
[QUOTE=deicide6;152589]Ok, and let me add this. My girlfriend doesn't "think she's pregnant" because of physical feelings. Its all mental. Her mom just said, since she forgot to take her pill 2 days that, "if she's having sex, she could get pregnant".
Im just really wanting someone to respond to my thoughts on ovulation. Am I right in those thoughts? Please, if I am uneducated, educate me.
I'm pretty sure she's getting a test tonight. I'll let you all know.[/QUOTE]
How the pill works.. when taken correctly is that it stops ovulation completely. You dont ovulate on the pill. Trick is.. when hormone levels drop... say when you forget to take a pill or are late taking a pill.. an egg can pop out at any time. That is why its SOOO important to take them everyday and at the same time everyday! Missing pills can totally screw up your cycle so you are never sure what stage of your cycle you are on.
If you are unable to support a family, you should not be having sex. Why? Because given enough times, you'll mess up and someone will get pregnant.
No form of birth control is 100% efficient. Talk about her ovulation accomplishes nothing. There is a chance that she will get pregnant every single time you have sex. Act accordingly.
While the chances of her getting pregnant while on the pill (assuming that she does take it as she's supposed to) are significantly lower than they are for sex without any form of birth control, you two are both at risk for STDs. Use a condom in addition to the pill. Spermicides wouldn't hurt either.
If anyone is seriously interested in the risk factors involved in various forms of birth control, visit the Planned Parenthood Website. You'll find for EVERY form of birth control the number of pregnancies drops dramatically when "used properly." As Browser points out, no form (other than abstinence) is 100% effective.
I assume this girl has been pregnant before; that's how she knows what it feels like?
I honestly hope she's not.
I hope even more than some lessons are being learned. I realize it's a turn of phrase, but people are not responsible to "educate" you... you BOTH have the responsbility to educate yourself and accept the consequences for your actions and decisions. It is noble that you are committed to standing by her... is she ready to be a Mother?
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Thats good to hear, just remember, tell your G/F its crucial that she takes her pills at close to the same time everyday. If she doesn't take them properly, she might as well not even take them. Thats how effective they'll be.
Good luck
it wasnt a "false assurance". It was just a comment. My main point was that someone said "have you thought about what color the baby's room might be" isnt helpful at all.
[QUOTE=deicide6;152743]Even though no one really answered my questions but thats fine. Just that "nothing is 100%". Got it. I didn't expect much more from here. . . . Thanks though. Kind of?[/QUOTE]
Well, every time I see "what are the odds of her being pregnant" I always wonder how we're expected to come up with some sort of numerical answer... especially with no information to base it on. There's not much we can say besides plan ahead, use protection, and be careful.