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I delayed answering your post until now waiting to see what others might say. I guess they are waiting to see what I have to say--that being:

> sometimes when we sit next to eachother on a couch she will lay down and put her feet on my lap and i dont want to look wierd if i start rubing them are kissing them are even sucking them and it would be realy awkword talking to her about it.

Why? Only because this is new to you.
It is important to know and understand that making out and making love and the overall relationship in general are not what we do each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Nobody is a mind reader and the male of the species in particular requires the dots closely spaced and connected. All this requires communication. In addition, it requires feedback, either verbal or non-verbal. Please read the articles on these subjects listed in the Index for complete information.

Weird? Not if you incorporate it into your hugging and kissing. There is much information on this, also, in one or more articles on the how-to's of making out. Whether you have had a tiring day walking together or not, not too many women will turn down a foot rub. Shucks! I did this for my mother as a teen. (She was a good teacher for opportunities to come years later!)

How nice it would be to just take one foot or the other and begin gently massaging the ball of the foot and toes while talking about nothing in particular. Try it...you'll like it. Try it...she'll love it.

> The last fetish is a latex fetish. seeing a girl ware latex realy exites me but i think my gf would be wierded out if i got her a sexy latex outfit r sumtin. I realy like this girl alot and we have been dating for a long time.

Perhaps not long enough to get a perspective on her likes, dislikes, and preferences when it comes to clothing and intimacy matters. Hold off on this until you develop more insight and do a whole lot more talking.

> i do not want to do anything that could mess that up. PLz girls out there tell me what u would do if your boy friend comfronted you about somthing like this

Please read the articles on boundaries as well as Implied Consent. Continue on with those on the how-to's of making out.

> I have 3 very strong embaresing fetishes. The first one is a rape fetish.

1. Hold off on the rape fantasy for the foreseeable future. The two of you must develop a lot more trust and intimacy, first, and this takes time. She may also need to work on her self confidence--I don't know.

> the second is a foot fetish. the third is a latex fetish. I am in a very good relationship with a girl and i dont know how to tell her these things.

2. & 3. Asked and answered.

> sence i got a rape fetish i want her to become more domenant and comanding around me and in bed.

"Rape" is a very powerful and life altering ordeal for anyone, especially women, because it happens more often to them than it does to guys, so we hear about it much more frequently. Be very careful how you approach her about acting out this fantasy. If done correctly, if a "safe word" is in place, if you go about it in a loving manner even though the "act" as in a play may not be, then you should be Ok. Discuss all this before ever doing it and never ever just spring something like this on a woman out of the clear blue. You may think it a fantasy, she may interpret your actions as all too real.

I hope this is of help. Got questions? If so, go thru the Index, first, then feel free to ask.

-doc

Dominant behavior can be worked on over time. Trust, self confidence, self esteem, must be in place, first. Next comes how she thinks about leadership and taking charge within the relationship. Is this girl normally submissive or does she make suggestions and demands in other areas of your relationship? This will give you an idea of how able she is now or will become later on to express her wishes and see to it that they are accomplished.

The first action in dominance is having the cooperation of your partner. I agree, you shouldn't always have to initiate love making, or, going out, or where to go when going out, etc., et cetera, etc; however, what is also important to know and understand about being in a successful, enjoyable, relationship is that we give to receive--not take to get. So, this means if you act upon her ideas and suggestions and she yours, you will be well on your way to being happy.

If your girlfriend lacks one or more of these attributes then encourage her to develop them and give her encouragement and praise as she makes strides to do so.

Believe it or not most women would LOVE to try their hand at dominance, they just feel shy about saying anything for much the ame reaons that you feel shy about bringing up your fetishes.

Okay -go find the sticky post entitled The Program
1. incorporate foot fetish into body worship
2. encorage her to be dominant by asking/begging her to 'lead'.
3. get sexy latex outfit for Valentin's day as a gift for her

Begin slowly, go at her pace and all should be well.