No and no. That was simple!

You are over specifying from statements that are generally true. "Generally," women are more emphatic about the emotional or relational side of sex. "Generally," women are not into sex for sex' sake. "Generally," women tolerate sex to gain intimacy whilst men tolerate intimacy to get sex.

Now, for some specifics: Sometimes we simply want to screw with no connections. Sometimes we go through stages during which we seek sexual contact with relative abandonment. That does not mean that we will not become possessive as we enter into what we think is a stable, monogamous relationship. The outside contact becomes a great disappointment that can turn real nasty.

Some of us even consider the health aspects. When we believe ourselves to be in a monogamous relationship, protections are loosened and then we are at risk.

Women are very similar to people. Think through those questions as they apply to you. So, what you "know" is not necessarily true; it is simply popular wisdom.

And none of us is feathered, so that, alone, angers me.

I agree with Brandye (especially on the last sentence!)

I would like to add that there are people that do fall in love with more than 1 person. But if this were the case, I'd doubt she'd call them "f buddies", more something like: lovers, bf's or husbands (legally permitted in some countries). And off course; things may change over time, as any relationship does. So there is no guarantee that when sleeping and loving a few, it remains a few. Just like there is no guarantee she'll just pick one of them.

And there definitely are people that like an open relationship in which you both get to sleep around or have specific mister(s)/mistress(ses) on the side. BUT: this should be discussed prior to the act and safety measures must be taken! No secrets!

This subject makes me think of something: I recently saw a beautiful triple who used to be a couple (man and woman) and she is bisexual. She met a girl whom she really liked and they agreed she could have her as a girlfriend. He liked the girl immediately as well. It wasn't long before they both fell in love with her and she fell in love with them. Off course it was a bit confusing to all of them in the beginning. In our culture you may not expect it to be possible to feel such love for more than one person. They've lived happily together for years now and are thinking about having a baby (the girl that joined last becoming the biological mother). They really look so lovely together! :)

The only thing you can say about every single woman is also the only thing you can say about every single man: s/he's human. As opposed to winged.

As a human, s/he learns, s/he grows, s/he adapts. S/He has beliefs, values, needs and wants that change over time. Those changes often (notice I didn't say always) don't give warning signs that they're about to ensue, especially when they're emotion-related. S/He just wakes up one morning and realizes "wait a second, that's not what I need/want anymore, THIS is. Holy hell when did that happen?"

And most of the time (again, notice the lack of always), s/he's not telepathic, so you're going to ask your questions of the specific person from whom you want the answers.

Because the only other thing I can guarantee you is, no two will give you the same answer, or the same reasons.

Who was it that once asked the age old question: "Women, what is it that they want?"

Understanding women today is as perplexing as it ever was, or ever will be.

Talk to each other. Listen.

Oh, I don't know that women want anything in particular whereas each individual woman - now there you will definitely discover something.

Stop trying to take the easy way out.

Simple... His dick is the best!

The reason why SOME women can't do the fuck and run is because to us, sex is a show of love to us. To Men, sex is just sex.
If she is having sex with multiple people, I'm not sure why she would fall for one more than another...
Maybe that one acts better than the others and that is the one that has the most "boyfriend/husband" qualities. Or maybe his dick is the best. It could be that simple because good sex is hard to find.

Sol - "his dick is best" - that's silly. Like some guy saying "I married her for her tits." You might as well stamp IDIOT on your forehead and be done with it.

Each person has her/his reasons, rational and irrational, for doing what she/he does or does not do.

Trying to fit everyone into a box to keep your life "simple" is its own reward.