I've been with my fiancee for... well....i'm not exactly sure... quite awhile. We're happily together. My sex drive is uncontrollable. He tries to keep up to me as much as he possibly can. We have amazing sex anywhere between 3 to 6 times a day, and each 'session' lasts anywhere from half an hour to 4 hours. And still i am never quite satisfied. i usually wind up with at least 3 orgasms everytime we have sex. I need help. My sex drive is just too high. i just can't handle it. Masturbating just isn't satisfying anymore either.
Point being: My sex drive is just way too high. No matter how much sex i do or do not have, i am still never satisfied. Does anyone have any advice on how to either achieve the impossible and achieve satisfaction or advice on how to achieve the other impossible, lowering my sex drive. my fiancee cant keep up anymore and my constant dissatisfaction makes me depressed, angry and generally quite moody. Even just some advice on how to control my sexual urges would be nice. It's gotten to the point where my problem is intruding on almosst all other aspects of my life.
I don't know what to say really.And i am upset because my sex life has virtually stopped.I am really very sorry for you.Have you tried going to the doctors maybe someone who specialises in sexual health they may be able to give you some advice or medication that might help to lower your sexual urges.Good luck whatever you do
ouch. sucky. we're on total opposite ends of the pole here. docs declare me generally hopeless since i refuse to put anything i consider foreign in my body.
Ok sorry just trying to be helpful.Maybe Brandye,EEK,or Dancingdoc 2 will read your post and offer advice to you.They are very knowledgable,maybe you could try reading some of their posts,threads
see if exercise and taking up hobbies you have a great deal of interest in are of any help. exercise and hobbies other than sex of course
@raunchygal
thanks and i will hope they do. i did read a couple of there posts, and i must agree, they aaarrrree very knowledgeable
@Vanella
my sexual urges/drive/dissatisfaction always seem to manage to distract me from excercising and hobbies, and usually i have to stop and at least TRY to satisfy myself.
@everyone
I'm hoping for maybe some sort of food or herb/tea or such that i could try. Or just anything from a more holistic point of view
Yes, you are asking for some natural form of birth control in your other post andnow some form form of sexual sedative to decrease your sex drive. You certainly need nothing to develop an imagination.
Try meditation.
I've heard of this. There was a British woman who had an accident, or maybe a complication after surgery, and she developed an unsatiable sex drive. Her husband was happy at first...but it quickly became too much. She was miserable. Any vibrations or moving around would arouse her, but masturbating or having sex would make it even worse. I guess there really is such a thing as too much pleasure.
Card69
You need to consult a shrink. Sorry, but there is a REASON why you cannot find satisfaction even with having orgasmic sex 3 to 6 times a day and we cannot help you until you know that reason. Don't stop with the first one you find either but get hold of one who really knows his/her business.
Also - 4 hours and only 3 orgasms?!?! Excuse me?? Why are you holding back like that? Good lord, woman! You should be having multiples and rolling orgasms to the point where you can't tell where one ended before the next one begins.
The problem isn't that your sex drive is too high - the problem is you're not getting the satisfaction you should be getting out of it.
Have a baby...that should slow you down.
@brandeye
hence with my sex drive, you can understand my need for birth control. and i do meditate. every night.
@Evilevilkitten
i believe i said "at least" 3 orgasms. by said time, yes i am rolling in orgasms to the point where i can't think straight for an hour afterwards.
i tried a shrink. multiple ones. sadly i havent found one right for me
@hi739
yeaaaah..... right. thats one of those things i said i would never do. a) i can't afford it. b) i'm terrified of childbirth (the pain) c) and one of the few sounds i cant handle is that of a child/baby crying or screaming
Rather than dismissing our suggestions - focus on finding the reason behind your lack of satisfaction. Your sex drive is not "too high" but your satisfaction level is definitely "too low".
Because you keep having more and more sex trying to find that elusive satisfaction only to find that method doesn't work.