my boyfriend and i have been sexual for about 3 months, its good but i have some problems and we dont know how to fix them.
1. i'm not sure what an orgasm is, i dont know if i've ever really had one.
2. i cant cum. i can get really turned on but i cant release and thats a problem.
does anyone else have this problem and if you do can you tell me what we should do???
if you had an orgasim you'd know. trust me. and with the whole, not being able to release thing... i found that the way i breath makes a difference. i really control my breathing and stuff and i cum.
If you look over posts all over this forum you will see that not all women can orgrasm or cum from pentration alone. It's normal.
Most of us need some kind of clit stimulation, so if you're not doing that, do that.
In other women, it takes more than that. You just have to play around and see what works for your body and what doesn't.
I get myself off when we're doing it. He's happy I'm getting something out of it... which I am, whether I cum or not. I enjoy the time spent with him and enjoy helping him get off. That's what makes the sex worthwhile to me. It doesn't matter to me whether I get off or not.
However, it's not the end of the world if you don't cum or have an orgasm. He's not a failure if he doesn't give you one either.
[QUOTE=Quote (candy @ July 08 2005,11:06)]my boyfriend and i have been sexual for about 3 months, its good but i have some problems and we dont know how to fix them.[/QUOTE]
Well... if it's good, than enjoy it, and forget "the problems". Hopefully, they shall solve by themselves, as you will become more relaxed.