My and a girl have had sex about 3 times about a hour or so long each time.
But during sex I keep losing my erection and I can never cum in her, I just kinda "fake" it so she does not think she is preforming bad, because it's great. I can get myself off masturbating in about 3 minutes tho, Maybe i beat the meat too much? I can't get off during anything she does to me (oral, hand job, etc), I'm starting to really worry.
I saw the anxiety thing but I don't think that's it, She says I'm good and I can tell she likes it when we have sex from the sounds she makes, and I'm fully comfortable with her and having my penis out (size, etc).
How old are you? Have you had sex before? Are you using a condom?
The first thing to try is to STOP MASTURBATING. Next time you see her, try ****ing her while you're in an insanely horny non-masturbatory state. You'll probably have an easier time keeping it up and cumming.
If that works, then you an enjoy sex while exploring other options for masturbation (maybe a different lube, less pressure, etc).
Also, make sure you do enough foreplay. You should be rock hard and tingly before you even penetrate.
I'm 17.
I used a condom 2 times and one time without, the time I didnt use on it was great, I could keep a erection longer and she said it was amazing sex.
I don't use lube maybe thats it?
It's hard not to beat off lol, but i'll try not to.
I'm just really worried that I have some problem or something.
Please go through the Index and read all about making out. There are several articles each addressing a different aspect of all this.
Here, I guarantee this will fix it.
1) Stop masturbating, try to go as long as possible without masturbating, before you see your girl next time.
2) After you've used (1) to be able to cum a few times during sex, start masturbating again, but using lube when you do so. This will probably feel less good at first, but it will train your dick to like pussy better than palm.
Trust me on this bro, it will work. You can't cum during sex! what do you have to lose?!
Ha well we ****ed for a good hour or so today with about 30 minutes of foreplay and I almost came, The erection problem is pretty much gone... I go a little soft every now and then but it just keeps coming back up for more!
I am putting money on your advice jiffy because it would start to get to that point but I would loose it because there was less skin on skin contact than I normally feel. I have never "lubed" up when I beat off, I think you're right and that seems to be the problem right there.
Yeah. I mean, how can a vagina compare to a tight dry fist?
I hope you have gone back to wearing condoms during sex!
Yes, I know men hate them but I'd be willing to bet you'd hate HIV/AIDS even more. That's your next challenge - keeping it up and feeling good whiile wearing a condom.
Right EEK
If anything you can take Jiffy's advice on using lube w/ masturbating and also try wearing a condom too... just so you can get used to how it feels.