First go back to the original forum of the guide then read through the forums here:

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new-sex/

1-Foreplay long; minimum of 45 minutes. Read through the posts of what women find enjoyable & "how to".

2-Certain of proper Birth Control; you use a condom & she a spermicide or pill. No condom & her without her own protection; not worth a romp in the bed to gable at your future.

3-You may or may not see this person again since it would depend on where you found her.

4-Alcohol & sex do not mix:
A) Performance anxiety.
B) Stupid mistakes.

Get reading first; be certain to think with the right head. You waited this long & then come back with questions.

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[QUOTE=DonaldBrown;231020]Hi, thank you for taking the time to read my post. Basically, i'm about to turn 18 years old and i am a virgin. I have started at college/university but havnt yet had sex...and now i have left school.

[COLOR="blue">Please clarify. This is a contradiction, either you are in school or you are not.[/COLOR]

All the advice i have read about first time talks about being comfortable with you partner, and taking things slowly, but without sounding insensitive i expect my first time will end up being some sort of drunken one-night-stand.

[COLOR="blue">Well, Donald, I believe you need a better plan. Why do you expect this? Truth be told, if you do not set better standards and higher expectations this is all you can expect. Drunk? If you think you need to drink in order to bolster your confidence, then you are not ready for this. Drinking as with driving, doesn't go with sex either.[/COLOR]

This is due to the fact that i don't have a girlfriend and now i have left school sex is more commonplace. I would really appreciate some basic advice so i dont mess it up!
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Please look at the Index and then begin reading the many how-to articles listed in it.

When you learned to ride a bicycle did you ride without a problem the first few times? How many times did you fall? My point being it is completely unrealistic to believe or expect that first time sex will go off without a hitch.[/COLOR]

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Things like how long to spend on foreplay, what is she expecting in a one night stand? how long should it last?
i know i sound pathetic but i wish there was a manual or something for a basic one night stand or just for having sex but not in a relationship![/QUOTE]

First of all, there is more to fooling around and making out than just "foreplay". Here are the various stages-
* Necking
* Petting
* Heavy Petting
* Foreplay
* Intercourse

Foreplay pertains to oral and hand stimulation of the genitals. The others pertain to kissing and caressing the entire body and arousing a person in stages. This is all laid out and explained in one of the articles, above.

How long should what last? Foreplay? The entire session? The session lasts as long as the two of you want it to. Making out in all of its many stages should last about 45 minutes. Why? Because women require more time and effort to become aroused than do males of the species--AND--this extra time also benefits us, our sexual tension, and how intensely we become aroused.

Please read the articles and then if you have additional questions or concerns, please feel free to post them. We are here to help, yet you do have to do some homework, first.