I've lurking around and have really enjoyed this site. After being married 20+ years it is great to learn things that can enhance my wife's enjoyment. She is very sexual in bed and when things are "in the mood".

What is the best way to encourage my wife to just let it go during orgamism/ejaculation? She is not into discussing the finer points of sex and kind of let's me lead everything. One night she did admit to having urges of having to pee at times during sex. That night I was able to get her past holding it in and I thought she was going to go through the roof. I was not oral at the time of the O and did not notice any ejaculant. I was using oral on clit, finger on the G. I led up (using advice from here) with vaginal licks, flicks and a good sensual massage to start.

What I want to experience is her ejaculating in my mouth while having the ultimate O. What is the best way to tell her to let it go, push it out? Or should I be telling her something else?

I do realize she may not able to "squirt" which is OK.

Thanks for any replies!