We have started getting into domination and I was wondering was how can we stop looking at each other as boyfriend/girlfriend as we have trouble getting into the roles during a session.:confused:
Thu, 05/17/2007 - 02:47
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Help with domination?
First step - separate the person from the body in your mind. You are going to, initially, deal only with his/her body so just focus on that. Explore every nook and cranny. Investigate - if you do A the reaction is B here an here but C over there. Pay attention to these reactions. Note what pleases and what does not.
Second step - COMMAND him/her to do the same to you. Find out what pleases you and what displeases you, if you do not already know.
Third step - Now that you know their body, you can begin working on his/her mind. Reward the behaviors you wish to foster by permitting him/her to experience pleasure. Withhold that pleasure to punish. PLEASE NOTE: never inflict pain when punishing - only withhold pleasure.
Final step - remember that this is just a game and that for all of that it is the SUBMISSIVE who truly holds all of the power in the relationship. Because at a word from him/her - it all stops - no hesitation and no questions asked.