Hey all, I am new to sex, and have a couple of problems with condoms.
I had sex for the first time just a couple of weeks ago. We used a condom, but regardless I thought I was going to cum in like 30 seconds. Turns out that wasn't the case... at all. I couldn't finish. I don't know if it was because I had a condom on, or because we were in the backseat of a car, or whatever. I like couldn't feel anything, sometimes I didn't even realize I slipped out until she told me I did. What do I do about this???? Is it just because I'm new to sex and haven't quite figured out how to get myself off while doing it? (I masturbate regularly and have no problem.)
Second, while having sex, I pulled out a couple of times just to make sure everything was OK with the condom. Eventually though I noticed that the condom began to move. You know that tip at the end of the condom that youre supposed to leave, well that slowly disappeared as I had sex, and eventually there was no tip of the condom it was firmly around the head of my penis. How do I fix this? I think I am a little above average in size, so I don't think its a size issue...?
Please help soon, as I will be having sex again tonight.
To the op: If you have a death grip on your penis when you masturbate, you might've desensitized yourself (if you don't, then I suppose the following doesn't apply). A lot of guys do this, and it's not a big deal. Just take a break from masturbation for a few days, or moderate the strength of your grip if you don't want to take a break from pleasing yourself. Either way, a less constricting grip will bring the sensitivity back within a short time frame and should make a difference in your ability to climax from vaginal intercourse.
I understand the condom will naturally move some, but it eventually slides its way down to the point where there really is no tip at all, it literally is touching the head of my penis... which I would imagine could cause problems during ejaculation? I've never cum though during sex so I really wouldn't know.
Also does any male have trouble finishing while wearing a condom? Maybe I was just nervous I don't know.
there is difference positions which makes you slip out easily
best way is to talk to her about it
the tip does go down and sit just on top, it will be seen when you do cum
probaly the best way is to do it in a bedroom or somewhere you can take it slowly, back seat of a car isnt good for beginners, its how you use your penis which matters and hands to touch all over her
If "greasing up" (good advice) may as well use vaginal jelly in her vagina. That adds spermicidal protection and, in combination with condoms, yields a very high level of protection.
If you sometimes do not use condoms as Zr2 describes, you are not properly protected.
EEK, my gf and I are very responsible. She is on bc and we use the condom for times when we want to prevent having a mess. It makes the cleanup easier if we contain my ejaculate. We are both in a long term relationship and children will be in our future. We are both more than ready.
Hi flames068. I know that I use the Trojan Ultra Thins with my partner and we love them. She likes that they feel like I am wearing nothing. I do know that I sometimes have trouble finishing when I wear them. There are times when we don't use them and I seem to finish quicker but we both have a better orgasm. If you are concerned about movement, try different styles and brands. Each style fits a bit different. Good luck!
flames:
1. yes, some men have trouble reaching orgasm when wearing a condom.
2. the condom will move if the woman is not lubricating or some lubricant has not been applied as required.
Place a bit of lube on the tip of your glans, then roll on the condom, then liberally grease up the outside of the condom before penetration. She can help you out with this turning the necessary act of safe sex into a bit of teasing.
Zr2 is now dropped from the list of responsible persons.
Oh yes, very responsible.
And it is perfectly fair to put ALL of the burden for safe sex and no children onto the lady in question.
She gets to put potentially dangerous hormones into her body while he doesn't have to do anything at all.
How very very nice.
@massterbator: I thought that something like that might be the case, so I've stopped masturbating. Normally yes I do grip myself tightly during masturbation.
I tried to have sex with her last night... and it didn't go well. During foreplay, I got a semi-boner you could say, but nothing rock solid. I then went to go get a condom, and by the time I got the condom, I was already limp. We started kissing again, and a little bit of touching, and I got a semi-boner again, and quickly tried to open the condom and slip it on. By the time I put it on I was already fairly limp, and just got more limp. So the condom obviously couldn't be used, and I took it off and we just made out.
I never thought I would have a problem like this, is this somewhat normal for guys? I'm 20. Maybe I was nervous... but I didn't feel nervous at all. I just felt... unaroused I guess I don't know.
EDIT: And lets leave the fight about whether zr2 should use protection or not out of this thread, thats not what this is about.
Why not?
The inability to 'finish' because how he masturbates is unlike the sensations one has during sex has been more than well covered, by dancing doc, in other threads on that issue and how to wear,size, put on, and take off, condoms, as well as types of condoms, and where to buy them - have all been covered in other threads as well!
Doesn't leave anyone much to talk about.
Informal Poll conducted amongst VERY broadminded people and here are the results:
out of 13 persons of both genders: 6 men and 2 women think - you're both nuts, 3 women (women only) think it depends upon your relationship and testing status, and 2 men (men only) said go for it! The other 61 persons availabe did not respond.
I would appreciate a link to that dancing doc thread
[QUOTE=flames068;244682]I would appreciate a link to that dancing doc thread[/QUOTE]
yeah and tell your teacher to do the research for you when you write a paper